Savage Love

Dear Dan: I am a genetic male with recurrent questions about my gender identity. Straddling desires to maintain my stature in the professional world, keep my wife at my side, and become who I feel like I am, I have experimented with crossdressing, chastity, ...

Dear Dan: I could really use your advice. I recently found my boyfriend's HIV meds while I was house sitting for him and went...

Dear Dan: In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of...

Dear Dan: I am a straight woman who has been with my fiancé off and on for 12 years. I have broken up with him repeatedly, each time after two years of being together, but we always end up back together. The two-year point seems to be when I become so incredibly soul...

Dear Dan: I’m a woman who recently went out on a third date with a man. I invited him back to my place and...

Dear Dan: I have been wearing bras and panties with...

Dear Dan: My ex-girlfriend, who I dated for nine months, called me two months after we broke up and accused me of giving her...

Dear Dan: I am currently separated. A few months after I moved out, my estranged wife found out that I cheated on her before...

Dear Dan: I started reading your column when I was a 20-year-old kid. Now I’m an old married lady with 20 years of (more...

Dear Dan: I’ve heard your calls for bisexuals to come out to their friends and family, and I think it’s a great idea. Here’s my conundrum: I’m not sure I technically classify as “bisexual.” I’m a 40-year-old guy who strongly prefers sex with women to men (percentage-...

Dear Dan: Here's a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and...

Dear Dan: I am male. A close female friend was raped by an old acquaintance of mine. I knew this guy when we were tweens,...