Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in her 30s who lives on the East Coast. I’ve been in an LTR with the same cis man...

Dear Dan: I'm a 35-year-old woman. I recently discovered I'm a size queen. (Is it OK for me to use this term?) This has...

Dear Readers: I’m on vacation for three weeks—but you won’t be reading old columns in my absence, and you won’t be reading columns by...

Dear Dan: My question is one of etiquette. My lesbian wife and I live in an apartment. The noise pollution between flats can be pretty bad. Anyone who lives in the building is aware of this, and keeping noise down after certain hours is a common courtesy. I wouldn’t ...

Dear Dan: I have a question about porn, and I can’t think who else I can ask that will give me an intelligent, educated...

Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and live in the Midwest. I’m intersex, but I identify as female. I am not out about being...

Dear Dan: You’ve said that everyone is entitled to a “zone of erotic autonomy.” I was wondering if you thought that “zone” extends to...

Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend (also 28) for three years. Our relationship is monogamous and vanilla. I’m...

Dear Dan: I’ve been faithfully reading your column in the Chicago Reader for years, and now I’m reaching out to you about my own...

Dear Dan: I am a 56-year-heterosexual man, and I have lived with ALS for the past six years. I am either in a wheelchair...

Dear Dan: I am a straight female who was a dominatrix for a while — and out of all the jobs I’ve had, I loved it the most. Working as a secretary — one with a master’s in writing — wasn’t that hard to beat, I guess. But professional dommes aren’t immune to workplace ...

Dear Dan: I found your column after a Google search. I saw your e-mail address at the bottom and was hoping for some insight....