Savage Love

Dear Dan: I am no longer sexually active, but I have a significant collection of sex toys from earlier years. I’m thinking of getting...

Dear Dan: I’m a foot-fetish guy who split up with my girlfriend of four years. She was into all the foot stuff, and we got into lots of other kinks. My concern is about meeting new women. I’m worried I’m not going to be able to perform for vanilla sex. I feel almost ...

Dear Dan: I'm a gay guy living in New York in his late twenties. My boyfriend has really been emotionally impacted by the pandemic...

Dear Dan: I was dumped in August by a guy I was seeing for 10 months. He told me that he wants to work...

Dear Dan: I'm a 30-year-old straight woman in a three-year relationship with my live-in partner, who is also 30. I love him and he...

Dear Dan: I recently synced my phone contacts to my Twitter account. When I was scrolling through the list of people who turned up...

Dear Dan: I’ve got a question I doubt you’ve ever gotten before. It has a bit of everything: sex-work etiquette, long-distance phone interaction, and a het cis chick anxious not to lose her tolerance badge. Here it goes: A few months ago, I started getting hang-up ...

Dear Dan: I’m a fan from way back. A therapist told me to go out and have some fun — I’m a married woman...

Dear Dan: I recently ended a relationship that lasted a year and five months. While I loved this woman, for much of the relationship she was, to varying degrees, depressed. I tried to be as helpful and patient as possible with the hope and expectation that she would ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 59-year-old man in good health. For basically my whole adult life, I’ve had this problem during intercourse with a woman...

Dear Dan: I’m a woman who recently went out on a third date with a man. I invited him back to my place and...

Dear Dan: Settle this for us, Dan? Which is the bigger ask: a one-time, once-in-a-lifetime threesome or regular (and pretty damn elaborate) bondage sessions...