Savage Love

Dear Dan: Is there a term that is preferred to “transgendered”? I recently wrote an article that described a MTF person I know as transgendered. The article was positive about transgendered persons I have known (she is one of many). Upon seeing a draft prior to ...

Dear Dan: Gay, thirtysomething male in DC. My boyfriend of three years has been acting strange — not taking his antidepression meds, says he’s...

Dear Dan: I’ve been dating a nice guy for a month or so. Sex is good, and we’re faulty compatible in other ways, too....

Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old gay man who just got out of an abusive relationship. We were together five years, moved to Portland together,...

Dear Dan: I keep running into the same issue with my best friend of five years. (She’s also my maid of honor at my...

Dear Dan: A couple of months ago, I got candida (a fungal infection) under my foreskin. I went to the doctor, picked up some cream, and used the cream as directed. The infection went away for about a week and then returned. I got this idea that maybe the cream didn’t...

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in her 30s who lives on the East Coast. I’ve been in an LTR with the same cis man...

Dear Dan: I’m a 24-year-old straight, married female. I have been religiously reading your column in the Portland Mercury since I was 16. Thank you for explaining things that my parents wouldn’t and for helping me clear the hurdles of adolescence...

Dear Dan: I started reading your column when I was a 20-year-old kid. Now I’m an old married lady with 20 years of (more...

Dear Dan: I am a gay man and have been in a relationship with my GGG boyfriend for more than three years. We are in our early 20s and have a good sex life. I just discovered that he has been engaging in what can only be described as cyber-infidelity. He had a secret ...

Dear Dan: I was combing through some old columns/podcasts and came upon a few instances where you counseled women on selling their used underwear online. So I was wondering: Is this particular kink strictly limited to straight guys looking for ladies’ panties? Or is ...

Dear Dan: I am a pretty handsome gay (I have been told) and I am dating a gorgeous man. I am 34, and he...