Savage Love

Dear Dan: I am a married 54-yearold postmenopausal woman. My libido has diminished significantly, and it takes me much longer to climax. My husband gets tired sooner and is unable to maintain an erection as long as he used to; this makes it even more difficult for me...

Dear Dan: You ran a letter about a gay man (“Sam”) who has been sucking off his straight friend. Sam said he’s never done...

Dear Dan: Why are threesomes much more accepted in the popular imagination than foursomes? I was just googling "finding foursomes" and the first result is...

Dear Dan: I am a 60-year-old heterosexual man, and I am being told that I’m normal. I have been to several urologists, and they...

Dear Dan: I'm a 19-year-old girl who was dumped a few months ago. My partner found out he didn't like my body when we...

Dear Dan: Straight female with a question. It’s about something that sometimes happens to me that I’ve never really told anyone about because it’s so weird and gross. It involves my bowel movements, so it’s not very sexy. (No offense to scat lovers, but I have zero ...

Dear Dan: Longtime reader and listener (magnum podcast subscriber!) here, and I have a conundrum. My partner and I have a DADT agreement in...

Dear Dan: I’m a 25-year-old gay male into puppy play. About a year ago, I joined a pack with one Sir and several puppies. I became very close to one of my “pup bros” and became his alpha — meaning between the two of us, I’m more Dom but still sub to our Sir. Fast-...

Hey, Everybody: We had our first Savage Love Livestream event last Thursday night and I had such a blast! A huge crowd of Savage...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit...

Dear Dan: You often mention asexual people. I believe I may be one. I’m a 51-year-old woman. I’ve been separated from my opposite-sex partner for nearly nine years. I’ve been approached by a variety of men, each one interested in becoming “more than friends.” I haunt...

Dear Dan: I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a straight woman...