Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’ve been faithfully reading your column in the Chicago Reader for years, and now I’m reaching out to you about my own...

Dear Dan: I’m a 21-year-old straight male, and I’m mildly autistic. This means that I have difficulty picking up on social cues. I’ve learned to manage my disability in most areas of my life, but I’ve recently become concerned about how it pertains to hooking up. My ...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit...

Dear Dan: Four years ago, I met a man on a “married but looking” website. We exchanged fantasies, which included wanting to have threesomes and a D/s relationship. He was 19 years my senior. I was 42 at the time. For three years, we met twice a week for drinks or sex...

Dear Dan: I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire...

Dear Dan: I am a 34-year-old straight woman. I’m monogamous and have an avoidant attachment style. I’ve been seeing a guy I really like....

Dear Dan: I’m a heteroflexible married cis woman in my 40s. I’m also a POS cheater and a catfish. I really fucked up. One...

Dear Dan: Here goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may...

Dear Dan: I know you and other sexperts say that kinks are ingrained and not something you can get rid of, but mine have...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I have not had sex for more than two years. When I first asked him about it, he hemmed...

Dear Dan: My husband and I (straight male/bi female couple) have been married 15 years. We are in our early 40s. When we met,...

Dear Dan: Hello! I am a heterosexual man! My wife came out as a lesbian after 30 years of marriage. We have children together...