Savage Love

Dear Dan: I am a cis woman in my mid 20s. I get a pang or a spasm of pain in a place deep in my clit/urethra area. I can’t pinpoint which part exactly. It takes me by surprise every time it happens, so I jerk around and press my crotch for a hot second — which doesn’...

Dear Dan: I’m a fortysomething gay male professor at a small college. I try hard not to get attracted to students, and usually succeed....

Dear Dan: Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal and human...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male in my 40s and I’ve been married to my husband for nine years. There was some mild infidelity...

Dear Dan: I have a question that is neither related to sex or relationships, but rather on the ethics of doing a theater project...

Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old bi male. I’ve been with my wife for five years, married nine months. A month into our relationship, I...

Dear Dan: I am a guy in my 40s, handsome, more financially successful than most, and a classic sexual scoundrel. I cheated on my...

DEAR READERS: This is the final week of my summer vacation — but you’ve been getting a new column every week I’ve been gone,...

Dear Dan: You often mention asexual people. I believe I may be one. I’m a 51-year-old woman. I’ve been separated from my opposite-sex partner for nearly nine years. I’ve been approached by a variety of men, each one interested in becoming “more than friends.” I haunt...

Dear Dan: I’m a cute, mostly straight, twentysomething, single and (safely) sexually active woman. This happens to me pretty often: I hook up with a guy, we start fooling around, and we’re both really into it. I reach down, and he’s full sail. Things progress — ...

Dear Dan: I'm a cis bi guy in my 40s who doesn’t have a lot of experience with other men. I'm happily married to...