Savage Love

Dear Dan: I have always wanted to have a girls-only sex party, but I’m not sure how I feel about actually organizing one. What’s the etiquette if I do organize one myself? Do I need to provide the dildos for people’s harnesses? Or just the condoms and lube? And how ...

Dear Dan: Yesterday, I found my 5-year-old son putting things up his butt in the bath. This isn’t the first time — and it’s not just a “Hey! There’s a hole here! Let’s put things in there!” kind of thing. The little dude was rocking quite the stiffy while he did it. ...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay man in my late 20s finishing up a graduate program and dating a man who is 38. The sex...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman from Melbourne, Australia, dating a 24-year-old man. We’ve been dating for about eight months; it is exclusive and...

Dear Dan: My son, who is almost 30 years old, was married four years ago. He just shared with us that for the last three years, he and his wife have been practicing polyamory. They are committed to their relationship but have each had relationships with both men and ...

Dear Dan: I’m almost 30 and I’m a virgin. I’m an overweight, straight-ish guy (I’m attracted to a few men, but those cases are...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend wants to visit a private gay sex dungeon in Europe this summer but we only want to play with each...

Dear Dan: I’m a 42-year-old gay man. I’ve been with my husband for 21 years. We met in college and, except for a six-month...

Dear Dan: I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a straight woman...

Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old male. I’ve been with my wife for 15 years. I know that passion transitions in a long-term relationship, but...

Dear Dan: I recently ended a relationship that lasted a year and five months. While I loved this woman, for much of the relationship she was, to varying degrees, depressed. I tried to be as helpful and patient as possible with the hope and expectation that she would ...