Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 18-year-old girl, and I have been dating my boyfriend for eight months. He recently told me that he wishes we never had sex because he feels like he raped himself by doing it. He has had some bad sexual experiences in the past, but he has ...

Dear Dan: I love that you use the term “cocksucker” only in a non-pejorative way. I don’t know if you’ve said so explicitly, but I imagine your aim is to remove its negative connotation. As the owner of a cock, I think cocksucking is WONDERFUL! Therefore, cocksuckers...

Dear Dan: I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and we have a great relationship — or so I thought. Last week, I...

Dear Dan: I have a secret: For the past three months, I’ve been attending a local Jacks club (a men-only masturbation event). As someone...

Dear Readers: Last week was made of problems. The bombing of the Boston Marathon, the explosion that leveled a small town in Texas, the rising tide of antigay violence in France, the North Koreans being North Korean. And when I sat down to write this week’s column — ...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight man and I recently got out of a relationship with a woman who would monitor my internet use to...

Dear Dan: Are you incapable of concision? Your answers are too long! You blather on, often rehashing the problem (unnecessary!) before giving four words...

Dear Dan: I'm a 28-year-old queer woman. It’s been a while since I’ve been in a relationship, as it was impossible for me to...

Dear Dan: I am a young gay man who has been so freaked out by the idea of catching an STI that I haven’t gotten with anyone for two years. But last night, I hooked up with a cute 21-year-old FTM trans boy, and maybe because it was a person with lady parts, I let ...

Dear Dan: I am a 23-year-old straight male. My ex-girlfriend and I started dating in high school, when we were both 17, and continued dating until I broke up with her the summer after our freshman year in college because things felt too serious. We continued to have ...

Dear Dan: I went to Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, the big kink hotel takeover event in Washington, D.C., in February. There was one thing...