Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a straight female in my mid 20s. I’ve been dating a wonderful guy for two years — but I recently found something that has put me on edge. Before we met, he was in a relationship with a terrible, alcoholic and mentally unstable woman. They got pregnant ...

DEAR READERS: I’m on vacation for the next three weeks — but you won’t be reading old columns while I’m away. You’ll be getting...

Dear Dan: Young, gay, gym member. A few years ago, I was alone in the sauna when this older guy asked if he could...

Dear Dan: My son has always liked handcuffs and tying people up as a form of play. He is 12 now, and the delight...

Dear Dan: Last summer, I reconnected with a high-school teacher I hadn’t seen for a year. We first met when I was 15, and I had nothing but respect for him and his intelligence. I also had a crush on him for the next four years. Fast-forward a year. He is sexting me ...

Dear Dan: I’m a married gay man. I’m nervous about sending this question and my husband is afraid you might answer it. I’m a...

Dear Dan: I’m a Savage Lovecast listener, but I’m sending this question to your column because my boyfriend would FOR SURE recognize my voice if I called the show. I’m 25, I live in Portland, and my boyfriend and I have been monogamous for five years. His dick is of ...

Dear Dan: I’ve got a question I doubt you’ve ever gotten before. It has a bit of everything: sex-work etiquette, long-distance phone interaction, and a het cis chick anxious not to lose her tolerance badge. Here it goes: A few months ago, I started getting hang-up ...

Dear Dan: My fiancée is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn — no addiction, no violent...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman in a relationship with a 43-year-old man. My boyfriend’s fantasy is to have a threesome with another man....

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