Savage Love

Dear Dan: I'm a heavy sleeper, and my wife knows that, but not so heavy that I don't wake up when she periodically masturbates...

Dear Dan: I'm a cis bi guy in my 40s who doesn’t have a lot of experience with other men. I'm happily married to...

Dear Dan: My father is 65 years old and has been a devoted husband to my mother who has been battling a medical condition for the past 30 years — a condition that prevents her from engaging in sexual activity of any kind. He has not had sex in all this time and is ...

It’s been a month since my great five-year-long relationship ended, and it’s my fault. We were both in our mid-forties, got along and had...

Dear Dan: I consider myself one of the lucky ones: happily married for decades, with a long-term girlfriend. GF is at this point part of the family, and while it hasn’t always been an easy arrangement to sort out, it has worked for over a decade. Recently, I’ve been ...

DEAR READERS: I’m on vacation for the next three weeks — but you won’t be reading old columns while I’m away. You’ll be getting...

Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old queer person living in Europe. I recently met a 46-year-old man. We were visiting the same city for work...

Dear Dan: I am a genetic male with recurrent questions about my gender identity. Straddling desires to maintain my stature in the professional world, keep my wife at my side, and become who I feel like I am, I have experimented with crossdressing, chastity, ...

Dear Dan: I am a straight woman who has been with my fiancé off and on for 12 years. I have broken up with him repeatedly, each time after two years of being together, but we always end up back together. The two-year point seems to be when I become so incredibly soul...

Dear Dan: I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire...

Dear Dan: Waiting to pay for my groceries at the market this evening, this guy, stinking of booze, says to my 9-year-old daughter, “Sweetheart,...