Savage Love

Dear Dan: I'm a 28-year-old queer woman. It’s been a while since I’ve been in a relationship, as it was impossible for me to...

Dear Dan: I don't want to become one of those people who write to you complaining about how I married someone I wasn't sexually...

Dear Dan: Four years ago, I met a man on a “married but looking” website. We exchanged fantasies, which included wanting to have threesomes and a D/s relationship. He was 19 years my senior. I was 42 at the time. For three years, we met twice a week for drinks or sex...

DEAR DAN: I’m a 35-year-old straight woman, recently married, and everything is great. But I have been having problems reaching orgasm. When we first...

Dear Dan: Longtime Savage Love fanboy with a bit of a conundrum — and it’s your fault! I’m a bi man in my 30s....

Dear Dan: When I first started dating my girlfriend, I asked her about past boyfriends and she said she hadn’t met the right guy...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love. Dear Dan: I’m a 38-year-old cis het woman who...

Dear Dan: I’m 27 years old and I’ve been married to my partner for two years. I’m facing a conundrum: A relative sexually abused...

Dear Dan: You often mention asexual people. I believe I may be one. I’m a 51-year-old woman. I’ve been separated from my opposite-sex partner for nearly nine years. I’ve been approached by a variety of men, each one interested in becoming “more than friends.” I haunt...

Dear Da: I’m a 43-year-old straight woman, and I spent the majority of my 30s celibate. At 40, I realized that while I wasn’t...

Dear Dan: I’m a 24-year-old straight, married female. I have been religiously reading your column in the Portland Mercury since I was 16. Thank you for explaining things that my parents wouldn’t and for helping me clear the hurdles of adolescence...