Savage Love

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we live together. Recently, his ex was killed in a car accident. They were not on good terms, and he often made scathing statements about her. I made the mistake of saying the following several days ...

Dear Dan I’ve been living with my boyfriend for a year. We met on FetLife and I was honest about being in an open...

Dear Dan: As you can see by my signature, Dan, I’m a linguist. On your podcast you frequently ask researchers “whatchyougot” on all kinds...

Dear Dan: I am a het husband. Before we married, I let my wife know that I loved spanking women and I was not a faithful man. Fast-forward 20 years: She does not like to be spanked and does not want me cheating, despite my earlier proclamation. So I watch spanking ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old man, and for years I’ve practiced edging. Recently I’ve experimented with long-term edges, where I’ll withhold coming for days...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male in my late 20s. My little sister’s husband, “Peter,” is my age and bisexual. I’m not one of those...

Dear Dan: I’m a recently divorced single mom and full-time student. I’m really beginning to hurt financially and have decided to start working as...

I recently spoke at Curious Minds Weekend in Toronto at the Hot Docs Ted Rogers Cinema. Audience members submitted questions on cards before the...

Dear Dan: Married from 28 to 36, single the last three years, and celibate most of the last couple years. The last two years...

Dear Dan: Gay, thirtysomething male in DC. My boyfriend of three years has been acting strange — not taking his antidepression meds, says he’s...

Dear Dan: I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for the past year. The only problem is that he works with a...