Savage Love

Dear Dan: Here goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may...

Dear Dan: My husband and I were at a kink event that required pronouns under scene names. My husband is a cross-dresser and wants...

Dear Dan: I’m an old guy, fast approaching geezerdom. After 45 years of marriage to the same woman, the sex has fallen off to zero. We otherwise have a great and comfortable relationship. If I want any at all these days, the only options are masturbation or ...

Gays and confused

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old straight male. I’ve been with my 25-year-old partner for six years. I love her and think that we are...

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my late 20s. About three months ago, I had my first one-night stand. I’ve noticed my thoughts...

Dear Dan: I have two questions...

Dear Dan: I'm a 28-year-old queer woman. It’s been a while since I’ve been in a relationship, as it was impossible for me to...

Dear Dan: My husband and I are a straight couple in our early 50s, and we’ve been married for more than 30 years. We were raised to wait for sex till we got married — this was back in the early ’80s — and we did. Our wedding night was pretty disappointing since ...

Last week, I spoke at the Wilbur Theater in Boston and the Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute in Troy, New York. Audience members submitted their questions...

Dear Dan: I am a kinky, youthful 72-year-old guy. I grew up in the Pleistocene era, when there was virtually no way to meet a kinky woman. I’ve had two vanilla marriages, and three months ago I ended a four-year vanilla relationship with the best woman I’ve ever met...