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Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my late 20s. About three months ago, I had my first one-night stand. I’ve noticed my thoughts...

Dear Dan: I was combing through some old columns/podcasts and came upon a few instances where you counseled women on selling their used underwear online. So I was wondering: Is this particular kink strictly limited to straight guys looking for ladies’ panties? Or is ...

Dear Dan: My girlfriend can’t use hormonal birth control and “doesn’t like” condoms but wants sex. What would you do? — Paternal Anxiety Upsetting Sexual Escapades...

Dear Dan: I’m a 26-year-old bisexual woman with a history of self-harm. It hasn’t been much of an issue for the last few years,...

Dear Dan: Four years ago, I met a man on a “married but looking” website. We exchanged fantasies, which included wanting to have threesomes and a D/s relationship. He was 19 years my senior. I was 42 at the time. For three years, we met twice a week for drinks or sex...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 18-year-old girl in my first sexual relationship. Things are a little awkward, and I could chalk it up to inexperience, but here’s what I feel conflicted about: I have a vore fetish. It was a fascination for me as a young child and became a ...

Dear Dan: My partner and I have been playing with male chastity devices. We’ve been considering going to a strip club while his cock...

Dear Dan: A man impregnated me about a month into our relationship. He is adamantly against having the kid, as it’s too soon. I...

Dear Dan: I have a dildo that I loooooove, and I was wondering if it’s safe for me to use it in both my ass and my cunt. I would clean it in between uses/orifices, of course, and it has a flared base, so it’s safe for anal play. Can I do this or do I need to get ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 28-year-old pancurious married guy from the Midwest about to move to San Francisco. I’ve been with my wife for 10 years (married four), and we’ve started to explore being monogamish. I am also reexploring my bi attractions. I’ve been thinking a lot ...

I want to thank everyone who attended our third Savage Love Livestream last Saturday night. Mistress Matisse was our very special guest and we...