Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 20-yearold woman in a relationship with a straight 30-year-old male. We have been dating for a year and living together for seven months. There is a lot of love but there has also been a lot of arguing. Our conflicts stem from issues of abuse...

Dear Dan: As you can see by my signature, Dan, I’m a linguist. On your podcast you frequently ask researchers “whatchyougot” on all kinds...

Dear Dan: I’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about myself and my sexuality and my romantic self. I can log on...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman from Melbourne, Australia, dating a 24-year-old man. We’ve been dating for about eight months; it is exclusive and...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of six months tied me up for the first time a month ago. He didn’t know what he was doing, and I didn’t get turned on because it hurt. I got him two sessions with a professional bondage top as a gift. I was the “model,” and I was very turned on...

Dear Dan: I love that you use the term “cocksucker” only in a non-pejorative way. I don’t know if you’ve said so explicitly, but I imagine your aim is to remove its negative connotation. As the owner of a cock, I think cocksucking is WONDERFUL! Therefore, cocksuckers...

Dear Dan: Twenty-one-year-old female here. When we were both 14, my first boyfriend took advantage of me. I wanted to explore my sexuality a little, but things went further than I wanted...

Dear Dan: I’ve been wondering: Since there are lesbians out there who occasionally crave cock, does the reverse also happen? Are there gay men...

Dear Dan: I'm a gay guy living in New York in his late twenties. My boyfriend has really been emotionally impacted by the pandemic...

Please help. I saw an old boyfriend today and, based on our text communications about how much he wanted to be with me, I...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy who’s involved with a guy I met a few months before COVID-19 took off. He's a great guy, smart,...