Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male in my 40s and I’ve been married to my husband for nine years. There was some mild infidelity...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love.  Q: At a party recently I was chatting with...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of almost two years is wonderful, and we have had very few issues. But there is one thing that has...

Dear Dan: I'm a 35-year-old straight woman living in the Midwest. I was seeing a massage therapist for three years and we became very close...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy, married for 16 years, kids in school. My wife cannot find a way to be intimate with me. We’ve had therapy individually and together. I nearly divorced her, but we decided to stay together — we do love each other, and the economics and ...

Dear Dan: I’m a hetero guy in need of advice. Back in college, I met this girl. Suffice it to say she was into me but I had some shit to work through. So we ended up being a missed connection, romantically. Despite that, we still became fast friends. I’m less ...

Dear Dan: I am a bi, white, married man — 35 years old and living in a big Midwestern city. I’d like to know...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of two years cannot climax or maintain an erection unless his testicles are handled, squeezed, pulled, or pressed on (preferably with my stockinged foot or knee). Needless to say, intercourse does not work very well, and our sexual repertoire ...

Dear Dan: I am a straight female who was a dominatrix for a while — and out of all the jobs I’ve had, I loved it the most. Working as a secretary — one with a master’s in writing — wasn’t that hard to beat, I guess. But professional dommes aren’t immune to workplace ...

Dear Dan: I'm a cis male in my late 20s. I've recently become consumed by a specific fantasy I fear is unattainable, a fear...

Dear Dan: I recently synced my phone contacts to my Twitter account. When I was scrolling through the list of people who turned up...

Dear Dan: I’m a 23-year-old homo who came out one year ago. Life has done good and bad things to me. Good things include success in the intelligence lottery, a full ride to college, and now a job with a six-figure income. Sadly, I find that my place in life is ...