Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’ve been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast. I have a delightful...

Dear Dan: Bi married man here. I was always out to my wife, but two months ago, I came out to our tight circle...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I have been together three years. We plan to start a family, we are very happy together, we go on many adventures together — all that good stuff. For the past year or so, I feel like I’ve been losing my sex drive. Not just toward him ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior. This has by far...

Dear Da: I’m a 43-year-old straight woman, and I spent the majority of my 30s celibate. At 40, I realized that while I wasn’t...

Dear Dan: I'm a 35-year-old woman. I recently discovered I'm a size queen. (Is it OK for me to use this term?) This has...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of eight months, K, and I are polyamorous. We started the relationship on that foot, and for a while I...

Dear Dan: I’m having a problem advising a friend. She’s been through a divorce and now the breaking off of an engagement. To put...

Dear Dan: I have two female sex partners who want to be breath-play dominated. I know the practice is dangerous, and I employ the...

Dear Dan: Straight male, 48, married 14 years, three kids under age 10. Needless to say, life is busy at our house. My wife...

I was honored to speak at JCCSF — Jewish Community Center of San Francisco — last week as a part of their “Uninhibited: About...

Thanksgiving-themed columns from years past