Savage Love

Dear Dan: I am a bi male in my early 20s who until recently was in the closet. I have been exploring my sexuality for the past year, and I didn’t want to label myself and open a Pandora’s box of oppression in the American South before I knew who I was for sure. I ...

Dear Dan: When I first started dating my girlfriend, I asked her about past boyfriends and she said she hadn’t met the right guy...

This is a preview of this week’s Savage Love. The full version is now exclusively available on Dan’s website Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: I’m a 36-year-old...

Dear Dan: I lost my dad young and I had a bunch of issues growing up. I’m probably gay, I love the idea of light bondage, and I’ve been this way for as long as I can remember. I feel like I’ve been on a self-discovery thing over the past year and have caught tidbits ...

Dear Dan: I love my wife, but I have a lot of resentment, disappointment and insecurity over our sex life. After four years of...

Dear Dan: I am a bi, white, married man — 35 years old and living in a big Midwestern city. I’d like to know...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male, and one of my good friends has put me in a strange position. The friend has been married...

Dear Dan: I’m a transgender woman married to a cis woman. Is cuckolding strictly a male-being-humiliated-by-his-woman-partner thing? Or does it apply to all couples? —Cuckolding...

Dear Dan: My ex-boyfriend and I were together for a year and a half. He is a silver fox who is significantly older than...

Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old woman, and about a year ago I started taking improv classes to help combat my social anxiety. I met...

Dear Dan: My fiancée is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn — no addiction, no violent...

Dear Dan: I am a twentysomething, straight, cis-female expat. How long do I have to wait to ask my German lover, who is übersensitive...