Savage Love

Dear Dan: Please do a public-service announcement about the Ashley Madison hack, and request that NO ONE look up information on ANYONE other than their own spouse. I’m a former AM user. I’ve been married to my wife for 20 years. We met when we were both 20 years old...

Dear Dan: We're an adventurous, bisexual, non-monogamous, opposite-sex couple with a teenage kid living in Europe. We don't really struggle with finding and trying...

Dear Dan: I’m a 24-year-old woman who just ended a five-year relationship. It sucked. I cried. It was my first breakup, so I’ve felt totally insane for the last three months. Now I’m in the dating world, and I go out with people only to find that we have no physical ...

Dear Dan: I have been happily married for 12 years. I’m deeply in love with my wife — she’s amazing, very sexy and gorgeous. I used to be jealous, but about six years ago, I lost my feelings of jealousy. In their place, I developed a strong desire to share my wife ...

Dear Dan: I’m a queer girl living with a male partner. This weekend, we found ourselves in an after-hours club, made some new friends,...

Dear Dan: My girlfriend can’t use hormonal birth control and “doesn’t like” condoms but wants sex. What would you do? — Paternal Anxiety Upsetting Sexual Escapades...

Dear Dan: I have a question about porn, and I can’t think who else I can ask that will give me an intelligent, educated...

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old gay man living in California. Why are most tops such assholes? I have had plenty of sexual partners ranging...

Earlier this month, we recorded our Savage Lovecast Christmas Spectacular live at Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. The audience submitted questions on tiny cards...

Dear Dan: I am newly divorced and have started a relationship with a man I’ve known and deeply cared about for decades. The sex...

Dear Dan: My fiancé and I have been in a relationship for 11 years. His best friend is one of his exes, and that...

Dear Dan: I’m a 42-year-old single, straight female who recently started dating a 36-year-old man in a somewhat exclusive, long-distance relationship. We have known...