Savage Love

I was honored to speak at JCCSF — Jewish Community Center of San Francisco — last week as a part of their “Uninhibited: About...

Dear Dan: My husband and I are currently separated on a trial basis. He took all our condoms when he moved out, and I...

Dear Dan: I love my husband of 20 years, but our sexual differences are putting a strain on our marriage. Ten years ago, he asked me to talk dirty to him about having sex with other men. It has progressed to him wanting to be a cuckold. I only want to be with him, ...

Dear Dan: I’m committed to my male partner and he’s committed to me. (I’m a woman.) But we both understand we need to flirt...

Dear Dan: Please do a public-service announcement about the Ashley Madison hack, and request that NO ONE look up information on ANYONE other than their own spouse. I’m a former AM user. I’ve been married to my wife for 20 years. We met when we were both 20 years old...

Dear Dan: Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal and human...

Dear Dan: I’m a 27-year-old straight guy, and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with an awesome girl for four years. Our sex life is pretty open and healthy, although it has lost some steam since the first couple of years — but that’s normal, right? For the last...

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old man who desires a monogamous relationship. I’m currently in an LTR with a 29-year-old woman. Despite my feelings about...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy but my whole life I have wanted to be spanked by older men. Does this make any sense?...

Dear Dan: I am a male grad student who is technically engaged to a female grad student. She has numerous positive qualities, but she is repulsed by sex. She is very sensitive about her repulsion and becomes distraught when I broach the subject. She says that even the...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman in a relationship with a 43-year-old man. My boyfriend’s fantasy is to have a threesome with another man....

Dear Dan: I’m 27 years old and I’ve been married to my partner for two years. I’m facing a conundrum: A relative sexually abused...