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Dear Dan: I wanted to tell you about something that happened to my friend. (Really!) She was going to bang this dude from OkCupid...

Dear Dan: Over the years, I have consumed what I believe to be an average amount of porn for a 44-year-old hetero guy. I...

Dear Dan: I could really use your advice. I recently found my boyfriend's HIV meds while I was house sitting for him and went...

I’ve found them after he hides them in his closet, which also serves as a general storage area. After discussions with him, I’m certain that wearing them is a pleasure thing for him. (He says “curiosity,” but this has been going on so long that he knows what it feels...

Dear Dan: I’m a 35-year-old bisexual man in a LTR with a man. My question, however, has to do with my parents. As an...

Dear Dan: Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal and human...

Savage Love Live stormed into Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. Comedian Corina Lucas absolutely killed it before our sold-out crowd, singer-songwriter Elisabeth Pixley-Fink performed...

Dear Dan: I’ve been with my girlfriend “J” for two years. Her best friend “M” is a gay man she’s known since high school....

Dear Dan: I’m a 27-year-old, feminist, conventionally attractive, straightish, GGG woman. Over time, my tastes have changed, and now I find myself more of...

Dear Dan: I’m a 28-year-old pancurious married guy from the Midwest about to move to San Francisco. I’ve been with my wife for 10 years (married four), and we’ve started to explore being monogamish. I am also reexploring my bi attractions. I’ve been thinking a lot ...

Dear Dan: I am a single woman, 31, in LA, and on OkCupid. (We all are.) I’ve gotten a number of unicorn requests. (Maybe because I mention being a subscriber to the Savage Lovecast magnum version in my profile?) I’ve never responded — until the other day. One unicorn...

Dear Dan: My girlfriend opposes sex work because she believes it oppresses women. Early in our relationship, she demanded to know if I had...