Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a 24-year-old straight, married female. I have been religiously reading your column in the Portland Mercury since I was 16. Thank you for explaining things that my parents wouldn’t and for helping me clear the hurdles of adolescence...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend wants to visit a private gay sex dungeon in Europe this summer but we only want to play with each...

Dear Dan: Longtime Savage Love fanboy with a bit of a conundrum — and it’s your fault! I’m a bi man in my 30s....

Dear Dan: I am a twentysomething, straight, cis-female expat. How long do I have to wait to ask my German lover, who is übersensitive...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old straight guy with a small dick. I have a girlfriend of seven years. When we met, I was really...

Q: Gay dude here. What the fuck is up with monkeypox? Do I need to be worried? A: Yes, you do. I tried to raise...

Dear Dan: I’m a 24-year-old straight male and I’m unattractive. Physically I’m not bad (not hot, but not ugly), but sadly, I’ve suffered from extreme depression all my life. I’ve gotten help, and it’s made me a little better, to the point where I’m functional. Now ...

Dear Dan: A few months ago, I started dating someone. I made it clear early on that I didn’t feel comfortable being in a...

This is a preview of this week’s Savage Love. The full version is now exclusively available on Dan’s website Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: I’m a 36-year-old...

Dead Dan: My father passed away suddenly. I had a very idyllic childhood and was close to my father and my mother (who is...

Dear Dan: I’m a heteroflexible married cis woman in my 40s. I’m also a POS cheater and a catfish. I really fucked up. One...

Dear Dan: I’ve been married for 30 years to the same man. I have dealt with his tantrums, his screaming, and his fits. He’s...