Savage Love

Dear Dan: My roommate is a gay man who is into getting fisted. A lot. We were FWBs until he moved into my place,...

Dear Dan: I just attended the nauseating wedding of my 30-year-old niece to her boyfriend of several years. Both of them seem as gay as...

Dear Dan: Are you incapable of concision? Your answers are too long! You blather on, often rehashing the problem (unnecessary!) before giving four words...

Dear Da: I’m a 43-year-old straight woman, and I spent the majority of my 30s celibate. At 40, I realized that while I wasn’t...

Dear Readers: I’m on vacation for three weeks—but you won’t be reading old columns in my absence, and you won’t be reading columns by...

Dear Dan: My partner is 31 years older than I am. I know the math: He’ll be 60 when I’m 29. But that isn’t the problem. The issue is he’s been a lifelong bachelor and never been monogamous. He’s fucked hundreds of women and is close friends with a lot of his former ...

Dear Dan: I am a 38-year-old married woman. My husband of 18 years is 22 years my senior. I credit my husband for giving me a good life and helping me pursue goals. But my husband is a type A professional, and that has played out in the bedroom. He has always been ...

Dear Dan: I am a 29-year-old woman and I have a problem when I have sex or masturbate. I always feel an annoying pain, a...

(Weekly deadlines being what they are, this column was written before the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade.) We knew this was coming, thanks to...

Dear Dan: I was combing through some old columns/podcasts and came upon a few instances where you counseled women on selling their used underwear online. So I was wondering: Is this particular kink strictly limited to straight guys looking for ladies’ panties? Or is ...

Dear Dan: I am a 60-year-old heterosexual man, and I am being told that I’m normal. I have been to several urologists, and they...

Dear Dan: My ex-three-exes-ago was a cuckold. I swore I would never date another cuckold after he blew up at me for not cheating...