Savage Love

A large crowd braved a snowstorm to come out to Savage Love Live at Boston’s Wilbur Theatre last week. Questions were submitted on index...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay man in my late 20s, and I can’t get fucked. I have tried to train my ass, but the largest thing I can place inside remains a small butt plug. If I try anything bigger, the pain is unbearable. I’ve always been a very anxious person, and it’s clear ...

Dear Dan: My fiancée is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn — no addiction, no violent...

Dear Dan: I could really use your advice. I recently found my boyfriend's HIV meds while I was house sitting for him and went...

Dear Dan: As you can see by my signature, Dan, I’m a linguist. On your podcast you frequently ask researchers “whatchyougot” on all kinds...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I were friends for a couple of years (we're both 30-year-old gay men), then I stopped traveling around the...

Dear Dan: I am a bi, white, married man — 35 years old and living in a big Midwestern city. I’d like to know...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit...

Dear Dan: I’ve been married for 30 years to the same man. I have dealt with his tantrums, his screaming, and his fits. He’s...

Dear Dan: Here goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may...

Dear Dan: Your last two columns and your last two podcasts were all about the pandemic. Everything everywhere is all about the pandemic right...

Dear Dan: I’m trying to date again after back-to-back negative relationship experiences. Experiences that have made me question my own judgment and ability to...