Savage Love

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of five years is a sweet, smart, handsome, loving, supportive, middle-aged, chubby white guy. We have a fulfilling sex life....

Dear Dan: I know you and other sexperts say that kinks are ingrained and not something you can get rid of, but mine have...

Dear Dan: Is it terrible to believe you can still have a truly monogamous and loving relationship with one partner after 20 years? Or...

Dear Dan: I'm a 35-year-old woman. I recently discovered I'm a size queen. (Is it OK for me to use this term?) This has...

Dear Dan: I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for the past year. The only problem is that he works with a...

I’m a cis bi woman, and I mainly have sex with people with penises. I have a really gross problem, sorry. It’s been an...

Dear Dan: Is it legal for a man to procure the services of a dominatrix? In the kind of session I have in mind, there’s no nudity or sexual activity or contact involved. There’s not even any whipping or flogging or caning or hardcore BDSM stuff. I just want to see ...

Dear Dan: I’m a longtime fan — reader and listener — and part of the 47 percent of white women who did NOT vote...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight man and I recently got out of a relationship with a woman who would monitor my internet use to...

Dear Dan: My new partner is a swinger. Being GGG, I said, sure, we can go to swinger parties, even though I have often...

Dear Dan: I’m 33, blah blah blah, and live in a big city. I’ve been dating an age-appropriate person for a year and a...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of two years cannot climax or maintain an erection unless his testicles are handled, squeezed, pulled, or pressed on (preferably with my stockinged foot or knee). Needless to say, intercourse does not work very well, and our sexual repertoire ...