Savage Love

Dear Dan: A big congrats to Caitlyn Jenner on her big reveal and lovely Vanity Fair cover! But I am having a crisis of conscience. On one hand, I support a person’s right to be whoever the heck they want to be. You want to wear women’s clothing and use makeup and ...

Dear Dan: I’m a thirtysomething straight woman married for 16 years. Eighteen months ago, I met a man and there was an immediate attraction....

Dear Dan: I’ve always been a big believer in the common-sense obviousness that monogamy is hard. Additionally, I like the idea of my wife getting fucked. I don’t have any desire to be denigrated or emasculated; I just get off on the idea of her being satisfied and a ...

Dear Dan: My ex-girlfriend, who I dated for nine months, called me two months after we broke up and accused me of giving her...

Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old gay man who just got out of an abusive relationship. We were together five years, moved to Portland together,...

Dear Dan: I’m awoman who married young (21) and I’ve been with my husband for seven years. Within the last year, I’ve realized that...

Q: I have a quick question about bisexuality. What if one has a preference for dating straight individuals? As a straight woman, I am...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I both spent a lot of time masturbating when we were young, and pretty much trained our brains to come only one way. He can only come from masturbating furiously, or sometimes from a marathon of jackhammer sex. A few years before I met him...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male in my late 20s. My little sister’s husband, “Peter,” is my age and bisexual. I’m not one of those...

I had a great time at the live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Chicago’s Music Box Theatre. Audience members submitted questions on cards,...

Dear Dan: I'm a heavy sleeper, and my wife knows that, but not so heavy that I don't wake up when she periodically masturbates...

Dear Dan: I’ve been dating a nice guy for a month or so. Sex is good, and we’re faulty compatible in other ways, too....