Savage Love

Dear Dan: Can I still be considered sex-positive if I personally do not have sex? I’ve never had sex or masturbated—all my life, any...

First time

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male in my late 20s. My little sister’s husband, “Peter,” is my age and bisexual. I’m not one of those...

Dear Dan: I write you from Italy, where I follow you through Internazionale. I am a guy in his 30s sexually paralyzed with his...

Dear Dan: My new partner is a swinger. Being GGG, I said, sure, we can go to swinger parties, even though I have often...

My boyfriend of three months, “Marcus,” told me last week that he is a trans man. He’s performed oral sex on me and fingered me, but he never let me reciprocate and told me he didn’t want to have penis-in-vagina sex yet because that was a large commitment. We go to ...

Dear Dan: Is there a term that is preferred to “transgendered”? I recently wrote an article that described a MTF person I know as transgendered. The article was positive about transgendered persons I have known (she is one of many). Upon seeing a draft prior to ...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight woman and have been sexually active for about six years. I’m in my mid-20s now and about ready to...

Dear Dan: I'm a lesbian and my girlfriend is bi. I've read your column and listened to your podcast for a long time, Dan, and...

Dear Dan: I’m a woman in an open relationship of four years. I adore my partner. When we were first dating, it was casual...

Dear Dan: A woman I follow on Instagram — whose account is open for all to follow — shares highly sexualized images of herself...

Dear Dan: I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a straight woman...