Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior. This has by far...

Dear Dan: I'm a 40-year-old gay male. I live in a big city, in a dense neighborhood. While I've been working from home during COVID,...

We hosted our second Savage Love Livestream last week and it was a blast. I ran my mouth as fast as I could but...

Dear Dan: My BF and I have been dating for two years. He’s 21; I’m 20 (and female). When I noticed my boyfriend wanted...

Dear Dan: I’m a 27-year-old straight guy, and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with an awesome girl for four years. Our sex life is pretty open and healthy, although it has lost some steam since the first couple of years — but that’s normal, right? For the last...

Dear Dan: I’m a single gay male in my 40s. I have a good life and do good work. I’m not worried about finding...

Dear Dan: My ex-girlfriend, who I dated for nine months, called me two months after we broke up and accused me of giving her...

Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You’re right! It is redundant to...

Dear Dan: We’re a happily married couple from Europe, longtime readers, both in our 30s, and both interested in having sex sometimes with other...

Dear Dan: My girlfriend opposes sex work because she believes it oppresses women. Early in our relationship, she demanded to know if I had...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I were friends for a couple of years (we're both 30-year-old gay men), then I stopped traveling around the...

Dear Dan: I was raised in a religious home and didn’t lose my virginity until the embarrassing age of 26. I was told by...