Savage Love

Dear Dan: Yesterday, I found my 5-year-old son putting things up his butt in the bath. This isn’t the first time — and it’s not just a “Hey! There’s a hole here! Let’s put things in there!” kind of thing. The little dude was rocking quite the stiffy while he did it. ...

Dear Dan: I’m a fan from way back. A therapist told me to go out and have some fun — I’m a married woman...

Dear Dan: Any advice for a first-time sex-toy buyer? I’m looking into vibrators, but I don’t want to spend a bunch of money on...

Dear Dan: I have always wanted to have a girls-only sex party, but I’m not sure how I feel about actually organizing one. What’s the etiquette if I do organize one myself? Do I need to provide the dildos for people’s harnesses? Or just the condoms and lube? And how ...

Dear Dan: I am a 38-year-old gay man with a serious problem. My boy-friend of five years has developed a strange fascination. We’ve always...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of 1.5 years shared (several months into dating) that he has a fantasy of having a threesome. I shared that...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: I've been with my wife for 10...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male in my late 20s. My little sister’s husband, “Peter,” is my age and bisexual. I’m not one of those...

I had a great time at the live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Chicago’s Music Box Theatre. Audience members submitted questions on cards,...

Dear Dan: Here goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may...

Dear Dan: Why are threesomes much more accepted in the popular imagination than foursomes? I was just googling "finding foursomes" and the first result is...

Dear Dan: I am a het husband. Before we married, I let my wife know that I loved spanking women and I was not a faithful man. Fast-forward 20 years: She does not like to be spanked and does not want me cheating, despite my earlier proclamation. So I watch spanking ...