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Dear Dan: I’m a straight 20-yearold woman in a relationship with a straight 30-year-old male. We have been dating for a year and living together for seven months. There is a lot of love but there has also been a lot of arguing. Our conflicts stem from issues of abuse...
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Dear Dan: My wife and I went through a long-distance period when we were still dating and she went away to school. I used porn as a masturbatory aid during that time. I did not tell her this, as she believes that porn use is equivalent to cheating. Well, fast-forward...
Savage Love | Week of May 9, 2013
Dear Dan: I’m a 24-year-old straight, married female. I have been religiously reading your column in the Portland Mercury since I was 16. Thank you for explaining things that my parents wouldn’t and for helping me clear the hurdles of adolescence...
That professor
Dear Dan: I’m a fortysomething gay male professor at a small college. I try hard not to get attracted to students, and usually succeed....
Redefining sex
Dear Dan: I love my wife, but I have a lot of resentment, disappointment and insecurity over our sex life. After four years of...
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Dear Dan: I have always wanted to have a girls-only sex party, but I’m not sure how I feel about actually organizing one. What’s the etiquette if I do organize one myself? Do I need to provide the dildos for people’s harnesses? Or just the condoms and lube? And how ...
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Dear Dan: I’m trying to date again after back-to-back negative relationship experiences. Experiences that have made me question my own judgment and ability to...
How do I explain my politically incorrect fantasy?
Dear Dan: I am a twentysomething, straight, cis-female expat. How long do I have to wait to ask my German lover, who is übersensitive...
Revolution Hall
Savage Love Live stormed into Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. Comedian Corina Lucas absolutely killed it before our sold-out crowd, singer-songwriter Elisabeth Pixley-Fink performed...
Sack lunch
On the first Thursday of every month I host “Sack Lunch,” an online hangout exclusively for Magnum subscribers to the Savage Lovecast. I take...
Boys come and go but sisters are forever
Dear Dan: I’m a reader in Kansas with two teenage daughters, 16 and 18. My girls recently met a boy where they work and...
Savage Love | Week of July 11, 2013
Dear Dan: I’m a 26-year-old straight female. I’m writing because I need to ask someone what to think right now. I just fucked a guy while on holiday in Costa Rica. I thought I was sex-positive and adventurous, so why do I feel so ashamed? I’m dating a boy back in the...










