Savage Love

Dear Dan: 42-year-old dad here. I’ve been married for 12 years, and my marriage has been somewhat turbulent. But after some affairs—one where my...

I’ve found them after he hides them in his closet, which also serves as a general storage area. After discussions with him, I’m certain that wearing them is a pleasure thing for him. (He says “curiosity,” but this has been going on so long that he knows what it feels...

Dear Dan: I have been happily married for 12 years. I’m deeply in love with my wife — she’s amazing, very sexy and gorgeous. I used to be jealous, but about six years ago, I lost my feelings of jealousy. In their place, I developed a strong desire to share my wife ...

Dear Dan: I started reading your column when I was a 20-year-old kid. Now I’m an old married lady with 20 years of (more...

Dear Dan: I'm a 40-year-old gay male. I live in a big city, in a dense neighborhood. While I've been working from home during COVID,...

Dear Dan: I am a straight male, 30, in a long-term monogamous relationship. I love my wife; we have good sex, and often. When we first got together, I had a mild foot fetish, and she has gorgeous pedis. We have done and still do foot play on occasion. But my fetish ...

Dear Readers: I’m on vacation for three weeks—but you won’t be reading old columns in my absence, and you won’t be reading columns by...

Dear Dan: Straight guy here in a one-sided open relationship. My wife and I opened our relationship just for her and to females only,...

Dear Dan: I’ve been dating a nice guy for a month or so. Sex is good, and we’re faulty compatible in other ways, too....

Dear Dan: I’m a 44-year-old married gay male. I recently found out my 30-year-old husband has been sending dick pics to randoms on Grindr....

Dear Dan: I’m part of a nonhierarchical polycule. In a few months, one of my girlfriends will be marrying her fiancée. I’ll be attending...

Dear Dan: I’m a lesbian who has been pretty successful at online dating. Lately, however, I’ve had a few women contact me who turn out not to be cisgender. I’ve tried to remain open, but I have never been attracted to a trans woman. I don’t rule out the possibility ...