Savage Love

Dear Dan: Twenty-one-year-old female here. When we were both 14, my first boyfriend took advantage of me. I wanted to explore my sexuality a little, but things went further than I wanted...

Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old gay man who just got out of an abusive relationship. We were together five years, moved to Portland together,...

Dear Dan: I am a bi, white, married man — 35 years old and living in a big Midwestern city. I’d like to know...

Dear Dan: My ex-three-exes-ago was a cuckold. I swore I would never date another cuckold after he blew up at me for not cheating...

Dear Dan: I'm a lesbian and my girlfriend is bi. I've read your column and listened to your podcast for a long time, Dan, and...

Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old straight woman, and I’ve been with my male partner for four years. Here’s the thing that’s been bugging me: After four years, the sex has gotten predictable. But it’s also gotten better in the sense that I orgasm a much greater percentage ...

Dear Dan: My question is one of etiquette. My lesbian wife and I live in an apartment. The noise pollution between flats can be pretty bad. Anyone who lives in the building is aware of this, and keeping noise down after certain hours is a common courtesy. I wouldn’t ...

Dear Dan: In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of...

Dear Dan: I’m awoman who married young (21) and I’ve been with my husband for seven years. Within the last year, I’ve realized that...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: I've been with my wife for 10...

Dear Dan: A big congrats to Caitlyn Jenner on her big reveal and lovely Vanity Fair cover! But I am having a crisis of conscience. On one hand, I support a person’s right to be whoever the heck they want to be. You want to wear women’s clothing and use makeup and ...

Dear Dan: I have two questions...