Savage Love

It’s been a month since my great five-year-long relationship ended, and it’s my fault. We were both in our mid-forties, got along and had...

Dear Dan: A straight male friend practices sounding and has for years. I am pretty sure he does other things that he isn’t telling anyone about — not even his wife. He has some medical questions about sounding. I am a pediatric nurse, so he brought his concerns to me...

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my mid-40s, and my significant other has a cuckolding fetish. My first response was “Oh, hell no!”...

Dear Dan: My fiancé and I have been in a relationship for 11 years. His best friend is one of his exes, and that...

Dear Dan: I’m a bi woman in my mid-20s in a great monogamish relationship with my straight boyfriend. We occasionally invite other women into our sex life, which is really enjoyable for both of us. He isn’t threatened by other women, only by other men, which isn’t an...

Dear Dan: I have two female sex partners who want to be breath-play dominated. I know the practice is dangerous, and I employ the...

Dear Dan: Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal and human...

Dear Dan: I’m positive you’ve written something about this in the past. I have searched your archives but have only managed to find people...

Dear Dan: I have a question that is neither related to sex or relationships, but rather on the ethics of doing a theater project...

DEAR READERS: Two weeks ago, I announced I would be taking a nice long break from questions about miserable sexless marriages. (I don’t get questions about happily sexless marriages.) I tossed out my standard line of advice to those who’ve exhausted medical, ...

Dear Dan: I’ve heard your calls for bisexuals to come out to their friends and family, and I think it’s a great idea. Here’s my conundrum: I’m not sure I technically classify as “bisexual.” I’m a 40-year-old guy who strongly prefers sex with women to men (percentage-...

Dear Dan: I have a secret: For the past three months, I’ve been attending a local Jacks club (a men-only masturbation event). As someone...