Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a heterosexual cis woman in a monogamous marriage. My husband and I have always struggled to connect sexually, mostly because he...

Dear Dan: I was dumped in August by a guy I was seeing for 10 months. He told me that he wants to work...

Dear Dan: I was combing through some old columns/podcasts and came upon a few instances where you counseled women on selling their used underwear online. So I was wondering: Is this particular kink strictly limited to straight guys looking for ladies’ panties? Or is ...

Dear Dan: I’m having a problem advising a friend. She’s been through a divorce and now the breaking off of an engagement. To put...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight man and I recently got out of a relationship with a woman who would monitor my internet use to...

Dear Dan: I’m a virgin in my late 20s. I’m not waiting until marriage, just for the right person. I’ve dated enough and had...

Dear Dan: My husband and I were at a kink event that required pronouns under scene names. My husband is a cross-dresser and wants...

Dear Dan: I am a 30-year-old trans guy, on T since college, happy and comfortable with my sexuality. However, I can’t find any helpful health info on a fetish I’ve developed: I insert needles directly into my clit, maybe an inch and a half in. I’m not talking through...

Dear Dan: I am a kinky, youthful 72-year-old guy. I grew up in the Pleistocene era, when there was virtually no way to meet a kinky woman. I’ve had two vanilla marriages, and three months ago I ended a four-year vanilla relationship with the best woman I’ve ever met...

Dear Dan: Young, gay, gym member. A few years ago, I was alone in the sauna when this older guy asked if he could...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 18-year-old girl, and I have been dating my boyfriend for eight months. He recently told me that he wishes we never had sex because he feels like he raped himself by doing it. He has had some bad sexual experiences in the past, but he has ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman in a relationship with a 43-year-old man. My boyfriend’s fantasy is to have a threesome with another man....