Savage Love

Dear Dan: My question is one of etiquette. My lesbian wife and I live in an apartment. The noise pollution between flats can be pretty bad. Anyone who lives in the building is aware of this, and keeping noise down after certain hours is a common courtesy. I wouldn’t ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 24-year-old straight male and I’m unattractive. Physically I’m not bad (not hot, but not ugly), but sadly, I’ve suffered from extreme depression all my life. I’ve gotten help, and it’s made me a little better, to the point where I’m functional. Now ...

Dear Dan: My little dick has always held me back. I didn’t date in high school because I couldn’t stand the thought of girls discussing my tiny...

Dear Dan: I like watersports, and I heard about a guy in a rural area who holds piss parties in his backyard. I found...

Dear Dan: Longtime reader and listener (magnum podcast subscriber!) here, and I have a conundrum. My partner and I have a DADT agreement in...

Dear Dan: I’m a 44-year-old married gay male. I recently found out my 30-year-old husband has been sending dick pics to randoms on Grindr....

Dear Dan: You’ve said that everyone is entitled to a “zone of erotic autonomy.” I was wondering if you thought that “zone” extends to...

Dear Dan: As a 36-year-old straight woman with autism, I am often misidentified as lesbian because my social signaling must read as masculine. I...

Dear: I’m a 27-year-old, male, adult baby/diaper lover (AB/DL). I’ve been in the closet about my fetish basically since puberty. As a consequence, I...

Dear Dan: Two years ago, I found a letter in my sister’s car informing her that the blood she gave during a charity blood drive had tested positive for HIV. I didn’t say anything to her at the time, because it was a really bad time, I wasn’t supposed to find out, and...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of five years is a sweet, smart, handsome, loving, supportive, middle-aged, chubby white guy. We have a fulfilling sex life....

This is a preview of this week’s Savage Love. The full version is now exclusively available on Dan’s website Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: I’m a 36-year-old...