Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m 25, I’m virgin, and I find it quite difficult to relate with girls. My main problem is I can’t accept my sexuality. I’m into fetish SM. But it seems like there are two parts of me. The first part of me wants to lick women’s feet and be humiliated. The ...

Dear Dan: Shame on you for recommending adultery as a solution to a husband who can’t satisfy his wife! Satisfying a woman is easy! I learned it from a book! You just tickle the clitoris continuously with as light a touch as possible until she comes, as many times as...

Dear Dan: Waiting to pay for my groceries at the market this evening, this guy, stinking of booze, says to my 9-year-old daughter, “Sweetheart,...

Dear Dan: Married guy here. I’m 33, the wife is 31. Our fifth anniversary is next month but we’ve been together for almost eight...

Dear Dan: I’m someone who does gay porn for a living. How do people who do gay porn meet someone who doesn’t just sexualize...

Dear Dan: I am at a loss. I am devastated. I just found out my husband has been sexting with another woman. As if...

Dear Dan: I am a straight female who was a dominatrix for a while — and out of all the jobs I’ve had, I loved it the most. Working as a secretary — one with a master’s in writing — wasn’t that hard to beat, I guess. But professional dommes aren’t immune to workplace ...

Dear Dan: I am a super queer presenting female who recently accepted that I have desires for men. My partner of two years is bisexual...

Dear Dan: I love that you use the term “cocksucker” only in a non-pejorative way. I don’t know if you’ve said so explicitly, but I imagine your aim is to remove its negative connotation. As the owner of a cock, I think cocksucking is WONDERFUL! Therefore, cocksuckers...

Dear Dan: I’m a single gay male in my 40s. I have a good life and do good work. I’m not worried about finding...

Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old woman, and about a year ago I started taking improv classes to help combat my social anxiety. I met...

I’ve found them after he hides them in his closet, which also serves as a general storage area. After discussions with him, I’m certain that wearing them is a pleasure thing for him. (He says “curiosity,” but this has been going on so long that he knows what it feels...