Savage Love

Dead Dan: My husband recently passed away. He was a wonderful person and we had twelve great 12 together. He was also very, very...

Dear Dan: I am a 29-year-old woman and I have a problem when I have sex or masturbate. I always feel an annoying pain, a...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman from Melbourne, Australia, dating a 24-year-old man. We’ve been dating for about eight months; it is exclusive and...

Dear Dan: This is going to sound like bragging, but my appearance is intrinsic to my kink. I’m a gay male gymnast. Most of the guys on my college team are annoyed by the kind of objectification we routinely come in for. (We actually don’t want to be auctioned off at ...

Dear Dan: I'm a 28-year-old queer woman. It’s been a while since I’ve been in a relationship, as it was impossible for me to...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I have been together three years. We plan to start a family, we are very happy together, we go on many adventures together — all that good stuff. For the past year or so, I feel like I’ve been losing my sex drive. Not just toward him ...

Dear Dan: My grandfather was a pillar of the community and beloved by his family. He was also sexually abusive. He died when I...

Dear Dan: I’m a 21-year-old straight male, and I’m mildly autistic. This means that I have difficulty picking up on social cues. I’ve learned to manage my disability in most areas of my life, but I’ve recently become concerned about how it pertains to hooking up. My ...

Dear Dan: I write you from Italy, where I follow you through Internazionale. I am a guy in his 30s sexually paralyzed with his...

Dear Dan: My fiancée is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn — no addiction, no violent...

My boyfriend of three months, “Marcus,” told me last week that he is a trans man. He’s performed oral sex on me and fingered me, but he never let me reciprocate and told me he didn’t want to have penis-in-vagina sex yet because that was a large commitment. We go to ...

Dear Dan: Why are threesomes much more accepted in the popular imagination than foursomes? I was just googling "finding foursomes" and the first result is...