Savage Love

On bulls, boring sex and BJs

Dear readers: Two excellent writers stepped in to answer the Savage Love Letter of the Day while I was on vacation, and I wanted to share one of those responses in the column this week. Daniel Bergner is the award-winning author of four books of nonfiction. His ...

About ten years ago, I was in a serious relationship with someone I loved more than I had ever loved anyone before. I hoped...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: I’m a gay Black man in my...

Dear Dan: I am a 34-year-old straight woman. I’m monogamous and have an avoidant attachment style. I’ve been seeing a guy I really like....

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my late 20s. About three months ago, I had my first one-night stand. I’ve noticed my thoughts...

Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old gay man who looks 45. Most men interested in me are surprisingly up-front about expressing their desire to include...

Dear Dan: My partner and I have been playing with male chastity devices. We’ve been considering going to a strip club while his cock...

Dear Dan: After spending some years in the doldrums after having kids, my husband and I are now enjoying hot kinky sex and the occasional free pass to fuck other people. We couldn’t be happier. I have a friend who was extremely keen for me to cage his cock with the ...

Dear Dan: I recently ended things with a guy I liked because he wanted to stop using condoms, but he balked when I said we should both get tested for sexually transmitted infections. He said he felt I didn’t trust him. I tried to explain that trust has nothing to do ...

Dear Dan: A few months ago, I started dating someone. I made it clear early on that I didn’t feel comfortable being in a...

Dear Dan: I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue...