Savage Love

Dear Dan: Is it legal for a man to procure the services of a dominatrix? In the kind of session I have in mind, there’s no nudity or sexual activity or contact involved. There’s not even any whipping or flogging or caning or hardcore BDSM stuff. I just want to see ...

Dear Dan: I’ve been wondering: Since there are lesbians out there who occasionally crave cock, does the reverse also happen? Are there gay men...

Dear Dan: I’ve heard your calls for bisexuals to come out to their friends and family, and I think it’s a great idea. Here’s my conundrum: I’m not sure I technically classify as “bisexual.” I’m a 40-year-old guy who strongly prefers sex with women to men (percentage-...

Dear Dan: A couple of months ago, I got candida (a fungal infection) under my foreskin. I went to the doctor, picked up some cream, and used the cream as directed. The infection went away for about a week and then returned. I got this idea that maybe the cream didn’t...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay man in my late 20s, and I can’t get fucked. I have tried to train my ass, but the largest thing I can place inside remains a small butt plug. If I try anything bigger, the pain is unbearable. I’ve always been a very anxious person, and it’s clear ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old straight woman facing a dilemma. I dated this guy about a year ago, and in many ways he was...

On the first Thursday of every month I host “Sack Lunch,” an online hangout exclusively for Magnum subscribers to the Savage Lovecast. I take...

Dear Dan: I'm a heavy sleeper, and my wife knows that, but not so heavy that I don't wake up when she periodically masturbates...

Dear Dan: My husband and I have been married for 10 years and have two children. We had a wild sex life in the beginning, but his job (he’s military) took him away so many times that our relationship (and the sex) took a nosedive. Upon coming back from deployments, ...

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my late 20s. About three months ago, I had my first one-night stand. I’ve noticed my thoughts...

Dear Dan: I recently ended things with a guy I liked because he wanted to stop using condoms, but he balked when I said we should both get tested for sexually transmitted infections. He said he felt I didn’t trust him. I tried to explain that trust has nothing to do ...

Dear Dan: One of my very close friends, a lesbian, has been married for a couple of years now. It’s been nothing but drama...