Savage Love
Rain checks
Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman in a relationship with a 43-year-old man. My boyfriend’s fantasy is to have a threesome with another man....
Full-throated
Dear Dan: I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue...
Prejudicial statements
Dear Dan: I’m a man from a very liberal background. Recently, a girl I started dating — a girl from a similar background —...
Don’t do a Nazi
Dear Dan: I’m a woman in my early 30s having sex with a guy in his early 20s. The sex is more than casual,...
Tie points
Dear Dan: I’m a single gay guy in my late 30s. I’m quite introverted and a bit shy, yet I have a big sexual...
Living your truth
Dear Dan: Living my truth permits others in my fairly conservative circles — Christian family struggling to accept a gay son, colleagues in a...
Slight Christmas
Dear Dan: How can I explain to my sisters that although I am a free sexual woman, I still prefer men as sexual partners?...
Short and sweet
Dear Dan: My partner has a hard time dealing with the fact that, before him, I had several casual flings and one-night stands. It...
Quickies
Dear Dan: My ex-girlfriend, who I dated for nine months, called me two months after we broke up and accused me of giving her...
It it me?; Anti-climax; She cheated, not me; My new gay...
Dear Dan: I’m a single gay male in my 40s. I have a good life and do good work. I’m not worried about finding...
Finding non-creeps for fantasy play
Dear Dan: I’m a 27-year-old, feminist, conventionally attractive, straightish, GGG woman. Over time, my tastes have changed, and now I find myself more of...
Devastation
Dear Dan: I’m a straight man in a live-in relationship with a beautiful woman. There are no sparks in bed, and it’s been more...
