Savage Love
Blinders
Dear Dan: Here goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may...
Quickies
Dear Dan: My ex-girlfriend, who I dated for nine months, called me two months after we broke up and accused me of giving her...
Fresh starts
Dear Dan: I am newly divorced and have started a relationship with a man I’ve known and deeply cared about for decades. The sex...
Living your truth
Dear Dan: Living my truth permits others in my fairly conservative circles — Christian family struggling to accept a gay son, colleagues in a...
Easy answers
Dear Dan: My girlfriend opposes sex work because she believes it oppresses women. Early in our relationship, she demanded to know if I had...
Not your rodeo
Dear Dan: My boyfriend of eight months, K, and I are polyamorous. We started the relationship on that foot, and for a while I...
Full-throated
Dear Dan: I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue...
We’re rooting for you
Dear Dan: I’m almost 30 and I’m a virgin. I’m an overweight, straight-ish guy (I’m attracted to a few men, but those cases are...
Slight Christmas
Dear Dan: How can I explain to my sisters that although I am a free sexual woman, I still prefer men as sexual partners?...
De-kinked
Dear Dan: I know you and other sexperts say that kinks are ingrained and not something you can get rid of, but mine have...
Habitual cheater?; I said no; Thirsty in a small town
Dear Dan: I am currently separated. A few months after I moved out, my estranged wife found out that I cheated on her before...
Dan Savage fills in for Dan Savage
DEAR READERS: I’m on vacation for the next three weeks — but you won’t be reading old columns while I’m away. You’ll be getting...
