Savage Love
Tie points
Dear Dan: I’m a single gay guy in my late 30s. I’m quite introverted and a bit shy, yet I have a big sexual...
Blinders
Dear Dan: Here goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may...
Boundaries
Dear Dan: My son has always liked handcuffs and tying people up as a form of play. He is 12 now, and the delight...
Don’t do a Nazi
Dear Dan: I’m a woman in my early 30s having sex with a guy in his early 20s. The sex is more than casual,...
Rain checks
Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman in a relationship with a 43-year-old man. My boyfriend’s fantasy is to have a threesome with another man....
Bloody business
Dear Dan: I am a 60-year-old heterosexual man, and I am being told that I’m normal. I have been to several urologists, and they...
Living your truth
Dear Dan: Living my truth permits others in my fairly conservative circles — Christian family struggling to accept a gay son, colleagues in a...
Prejudicial statements
Dear Dan: I’m a man from a very liberal background. Recently, a girl I started dating — a girl from a similar background —...
Full-throated
Dear Dan: I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue...
Quickies
Dear Dan: My ex-girlfriend, who I dated for nine months, called me two months after we broke up and accused me of giving her...
Slight Christmas
Dear Dan: How can I explain to my sisters that although I am a free sexual woman, I still prefer men as sexual partners?...
We’re rooting for you
Dear Dan: I’m almost 30 and I’m a virgin. I’m an overweight, straight-ish guy (I’m attracted to a few men, but those cases are...
