Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a longtime fan — reader and listener — and part of the 47 percent of white women who did NOT vote...

Dear Dan: Is it legal for a man to procure the services of a dominatrix? In the kind of session I have in mind, there’s no nudity or sexual activity or contact involved. There’s not even any whipping or flogging or caning or hardcore BDSM stuff. I just want to see ...

Dear Dan: As a 36-year-old straight woman with autism, I am often misidentified as lesbian because my social signaling must read as masculine. I...

Dear Dan: You ran a letter about a gay man (“Sam”) who has been sucking off his straight friend. Sam said he’s never done...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend wants to visit a private gay sex dungeon in Europe this summer but we only want to play with each...

Dear Dan: I’m a 35-year-old man in a serious relationship — the best I’ve ever been in — with a girl I’ll likely marry....

Dear Dan: A man impregnated me about a month into our relationship. He is adamantly against having the kid, as it’s too soon. I...

Dear Dan: My question is on managing “gray area” intimacies during the pandemic. I have a lover/friend that I’ve been hanging out with—fucking, drinking...

Dear Dan: Here goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may...

Dear Dan: A question on your favorite topic, Dan. Just kidding, it’s a question about my vagina. I’m having a problem with the microbiome...

Dear Dan: My son has always liked handcuffs and tying people up as a form of play. He is 12 now, and the delight...

Dear Dan: I am a fortysomething bi woman happily married to a newly transitioned 50ish trans woman. I have a history of putting myself...