Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a recently divorced single mom and full-time student. I’m really beginning to hurt financially and have decided to start working as...

Dear Dan: As a 36-year-old straight woman with autism, I am often misidentified as lesbian because my social signaling must read as masculine. I...

Dear Dan: Is it legal for a man to procure the services of a dominatrix? In the kind of session I have in mind, there’s no nudity or sexual activity or contact involved. There’s not even any whipping or flogging or caning or hardcore BDSM stuff. I just want to see ...

Dear Dan: You ran a letter about a gay man (“Sam”) who has been sucking off his straight friend. Sam said he’s never done...

Dear Dan: I am a 29-year-old woman and I have a problem when I have sex or masturbate. I always feel an annoying pain, a...

Dear Dan: I’m a woman in my early 30s having sex with a guy in his early 20s. The sex is more than casual,...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman in a relationship with a 43-year-old man. My boyfriend’s fantasy is to have a threesome with another man....

Dear Dan: A question on your favorite topic, Dan. Just kidding, it’s a question about my vagina. I’m having a problem with the microbiome...

Dear Dan: I’m a 35-year-old man in a serious relationship — the best I’ve ever been in — with a girl I’ll likely marry....

Dear Dan: I am a fortysomething bi woman happily married to a newly transitioned 50ish trans woman. I have a history of putting myself...

Dear Dan: I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue...

Dear Dan: My question is on managing “gray area” intimacies during the pandemic. I have a lover/friend that I’ve been hanging out with—fucking, drinking...