Savage Love
More feet; Understanding my attractions; Election blues
Dear Dan: I’m a 35-year-old man in a serious relationship — the best I’ve ever been in — with a girl I’ll likely marry....
Don’t do a Nazi
Dear Dan: I’m a woman in my early 30s having sex with a guy in his early 20s. The sex is more than casual,...
Pandemic pressures
Dear Dan: I'm a gay guy living in New York in his late twenties. My boyfriend has really been emotionally impacted by the pandemic...
Baggage
Dear Dan: You ran a letter about a gay man (“Sam”) who has been sucking off his straight friend. Sam said he’s never done...
It it me?; Anti-climax; She cheated, not me; My new gay...
Dear Dan: I’m a single gay male in my 40s. I have a good life and do good work. I’m not worried about finding...
Va va vulva
Dear Dan: A question on your favorite topic, Dan. Just kidding, it’s a question about my vagina. I’m having a problem with the microbiome...
Physical distancing do’s and don’t’s
Dear Dan: My question is on managing “gray area” intimacies during the pandemic. I have a lover/friend that I’ve been hanging out with—fucking, drinking...
Tie points
Dear Dan: I’m a single gay guy in my late 30s. I’m quite introverted and a bit shy, yet I have a big sexual...
Cutting remarks
Dear Dan: I’m having a problem advising a friend. She’s been through a divorce and now the breaking off of an engagement. To put...
Prejudicial statements
Dear Dan: I’m a man from a very liberal background. Recently, a girl I started dating — a girl from a similar background —...
Not your rodeo
Dear Dan: My boyfriend of eight months, K, and I are polyamorous. We started the relationship on that foot, and for a while I...
Finding non-creeps for fantasy play
Dear Dan: I’m a 27-year-old, feminist, conventionally attractive, straightish, GGG woman. Over time, my tastes have changed, and now I find myself more of...
