Savage Love

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I have not had sex for more than two years. When I first asked him about it, he hemmed...

Dear Dan: About a year ago, I was pretending to read my boyfriend’s mind and jokingly said, “You want to put it in my...

Dear Dan: I’m a 42-year-old single, straight female who recently started dating a 36-year-old man in a somewhat exclusive, long-distance relationship. We have known...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 26-year-old man who wants advice on helping my fiancée realize a particular fantasy. We have been dating for three years and are in a happy monogamous relationship. I was always vanilla, but she enjoys rougher sex and light bondage. We’ve ...

Dear Dan: My partner and I have been playing with male chastity devices. We’ve been considering going to a strip club while his cock...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight cis woman in my early 40s and a single mother. I have not dated or hooked up with anyone...

Dear Dan: I’m a European heterosexual girl and reading your column from afar has been a good way for me to better know the...

Dear Dan: My girlfriend opposes sex work because she believes it oppresses women. Early in our relationship, she demanded to know if I had...

Dear Dan: My grandfather was a pillar of the community and beloved by his family. He was also sexually abusive. He died when I...

Dear Dan: I’m a middle-aged homo trying to figure out Grindr. Is it impolite to go on Grindr if you’re not looking for an...

Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You’re right! It is redundant to...

Dear Dan: I have a secret: For the past three months, I’ve been attending a local Jacks club (a men-only masturbation event). As someone...