Savage Love

Dear Dan: I am a single woman, 31, in LA, and on OkCupid. (We all are.) I’ve gotten a number of unicorn requests. (Maybe because I mention being a subscriber to the Savage Lovecast magnum version in my profile?) I’ve never responded — until the other day. One unicorn...

Dear Dan: I’m a fan from way back. A therapist told me to go out and have some fun — I’m a married woman...

Dear Dan: I’m someone who does gay porn for a living. How do people who do gay porn meet someone who doesn’t just sexualize...

Dear Dan: I am a man who tends to ejaculate prematurely. Not all the time — but at least 50 percent of the time, I’m good for two to three minutes and then I REALLY have to be careful. I’ve learned to manage it and work around it (like, stop if I’m too close and eat ...

Dear Dan: I’m 33, blah blah blah, and live in a big city. I’ve been dating an age-appropriate person for a year and a...

Dear Dan: I’ve been with my girlfriend “J” for two years. Her best friend “M” is a gay man she’s known since high school....

Dear Dan: I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a straight woman...

Dear Dan: When I was 15, I had a three-month-long sexual relationship with a 32-year-old woman. She was a friend of the family, and my parents were going through a divorce. I stayed with her for the summer, and she initiated a sexual relationship. Looking back, I...

Dear Dan: I am a 38-year-old lesbian, very femme, very out. I have a coworker I can’t figure out. We’ve worked together for a...

Dear Dan: My ex-boyfriend and I were together for a year and a half. He is a silver fox who is significantly older than...

Dear Dan: I have two questions...

Dear Dan: I can orgasm without stimulating my clitoris — but only through anal sex. What gives...