Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old gay man just shy of five years sober. I’ve had to do a lot of work on myself in...

Dear Dan: I'm a heavy sleeper, and my wife knows that, but not so heavy that I don't wake up when she periodically masturbates...

Dear Dan: I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for the past year. The only problem is that he works with a...

Dear Dan: My partner has a hard time dealing with the fact that, before him, I had several casual flings and one-night stands. It...

Dear Dan: I’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about myself and my sexuality and my romantic self. I can log on...

Dear Dan: I think someone asked you a question about me and my amazing Boyfriend. I set up and re-rack the weights when we work out. The person who wrote saw me kneel and tie my Boyfriend’s shoe and was wondering what was up. You told the guy to ask my Boyfriend. He ...

Dear Dan: I’m what was once quaintly called a “woman of a certain age” who started reading your column to broaden my horizons. As a result, some curiosities peeped their heads over the boundaries of my once happily repressed existence. I summoned the courage to ...

Dear Dan: Is there a term that is preferred to “transgendered”? I recently wrote an article that described a MTF person I know as transgendered. The article was positive about transgendered persons I have known (she is one of many). Upon seeing a draft prior to ...

Dear Dan: I'm a 35-year-old woman. I recently discovered I'm a size queen. (Is it OK for me to use this term?) This has...

Dear Dan: We have a new shorthand term for BDSM doms who are abusive assholes: Ghomeshi doms. Good guys into BDSM should stick this in their online profiles: “I’m a nice, non-Ghomeshi dom looking for a lady who is into...

(Weekly deadlines being what they are, this column was written before the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade.) We knew this was coming, thanks to...

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my mid-40s, and my significant other has a cuckolding fetish. My first response was “Oh, hell no!”...