Savage Love

Dear Dan: As you can see by my signature, Dan, I’m a linguist. On your podcast you frequently ask researchers “whatchyougot” on all kinds...

Dear Dan: I’m a lady considering taking on a foot fetishist as a slave. He would do chores around my house, including cleaning and...

I had a great time at the live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Chicago’s Music Box Theatre. Audience members submitted questions on cards,...

Dear Dan: Here's a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and...

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old gay man living in California. Why are most tops such assholes? I have had plenty of sexual partners ranging...

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my mid-40s, and my significant other has a cuckolding fetish. My first response was “Oh, hell no!”...

Dear Dan: I love that you use the term “cocksucker” only in a non-pejorative way. I don’t know if you’ve said so explicitly, but I imagine your aim is to remove its negative connotation. As the owner of a cock, I think cocksucking is WONDERFUL! Therefore, cocksuckers...

Dear Dan: I am a straight male, 30, in a long-term monogamous relationship. I love my wife; we have good sex, and often. When we first got together, I had a mild foot fetish, and she has gorgeous pedis. We have done and still do foot play on occasion. But my fetish ...

Dear Dan: I’m a Seattle local who basically grew up reading your column. I think you’ve always given really sound advice, so I’m reaching...

Dear Dan: My roommate is a gay man who is into getting fisted. A lot. We were FWBs until he moved into my place,...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 18-year-old girl in my first sexual relationship. Things are a little awkward, and I could chalk it up to inexperience, but here’s what I feel conflicted about: I have a vore fetish. It was a fascination for me as a young child and became a ...

Dear Dan: This woman has gone down on me (I’m a man) more than half a dozen times in the last three months. Each...