Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a gay man in my late 20s finishing up a graduate program and dating a man who is 38. The sex...

Dear Dan: I lost my dad young and I had a bunch of issues growing up. I’m probably gay, I love the idea of light bondage, and I’ve been this way for as long as I can remember. I feel like I’ve been on a self-discovery thing over the past year and have caught tidbits ...

First time

Dear Dan: I’m a reader in Kansas with two teenage daughters, 16 and 18. My girls recently met a boy where they work and...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight man and I recently got out of a relationship with a woman who would monitor my internet use to...

Dear Dan: Straight male, 48, married 14 years, three kids under age 10. Needless to say, life is busy at our house. My wife...

Dear Dan: I met a guy right around the time my boyfriend dumped me. I met him on a dating site, but he was...

Dear Dan: We’re a happily married couple from Europe, longtime readers, both in our 30s, and both interested in having sex sometimes with other...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay man in my late 20s, and I can’t get fucked. I have tried to train my ass, but the largest thing I can place inside remains a small butt plug. If I try anything bigger, the pain is unbearable. I’ve always been a very anxious person, and it’s clear ...

Dear Dan: I’m almost 30 and I’m a virgin. I’m an overweight, straight-ish guy (I’m attracted to a few men, but those cases are...

Dear Dan: I’m 20, straight, male, fit, and active. I masturbated prone — flat on my stomach — for years. I’ve now changed to...

Dear Dan: You’ve said that everyone is entitled to a “zone of erotic autonomy.” I was wondering if you thought that “zone” extends to...