Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old gay man who looks 45. Most men interested in me are surprisingly up-front about expressing their desire to include...

Dear Dan: I'm a 30-something gay man married to a 30-something gay man. For almost two years, we've been seeing another pair of married...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love.  Q: At a party recently I was chatting with...

Dear Dan: I am male. A close female friend was raped by an old acquaintance of mine. I knew this guy when we were tweens,...

Dear Dan: I fell in love with my second cousin about four years ago at a family reunion. (I hadn’t laid eyes on him...

Dear Dan: My grandfather was a pillar of the community and beloved by his family. He was also sexually abusive. He died when I...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I have been together three years. We plan to start a family, we are very happy together, we go on many adventures together — all that good stuff. For the past year or so, I feel like I’ve been losing my sex drive. Not just toward him ...

Dear Dan: I'm a 40-year-old gay male. I live in a big city, in a dense neighborhood. While I've been working from home during COVID,...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman from Melbourne, Australia, dating a 24-year-old man. We’ve been dating for about eight months; it is exclusive and...

I visited Halifax, Nova Scotia, last week — for my geographically illiterate fellow Americans, Halifax is the biggest city on Canada’s Atlantic coast — to help celebrate the 20th anniversary of the founding of the Coast, Halifax’s kick-ass alternative weekly ...

Dear Dan: My question is on managing “gray area” intimacies during the pandemic. I have a lover/friend that I’ve been hanging out with—fucking, drinking...

Dear Dan: I recently synced my phone contacts to my Twitter account. When I was scrolling through the list of people who turned up...