Savage Love
Letter rip
Dear Dan: I’m a female in my late 20s. I broke up with a toxic ex about a year ago and I’ve been walking...
Sub space
Dear Dan: I’m a 26-year-old bisexual woman with a history of self-harm. It hasn’t been much of an issue for the last few years,...
The sins of the grandfather
Dear Dan: My grandfather was a pillar of the community and beloved by his family. He was also sexually abusive. He died when I...
Down there
Dear Dan: Background: I, a 21-year-old male, enjoy receptive fisting. I’ve also had constipation problems all my life. Question: I saw my doctor recently,...
Knowing you
Dear Dan: I'm a 40-year-old gay male. I live in a big city, in a dense neighborhood. While I've been working from home during COVID,...
Four play
Dear Dan: Why are threesomes much more accepted in the popular imagination than foursomes? I was just googling "finding foursomes" and the first result is...
Secret bisexuality and dating app usage; Erectile dysfunction meds
Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old man who desires a monogamous relationship. I’m currently in an LTR with a 29-year-old woman. Despite my feelings about...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’ve been faithfully reading your column in the Chicago Reader for years, and now I’m reaching out to you about my own...
Cornhole; The perfect match; In need of a therapist
Dear Dan: What are your favorite uses for the butt plug besides putting it in your own butt or someone else’s butt?
— Fun Faggy...
De-kinked
Dear Dan: I know you and other sexperts say that kinks are ingrained and not something you can get rid of, but mine have...
Savage livestream
I want to thank everyone who attended our third Savage Love Livestream last Saturday night. Mistress Matisse was our very special guest and we...
Schooled me once
There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love.
Dear Dan: I’m a 38-year-old cis het woman who...