Savage Love
Letter rip
Dear Dan: I’m a female in my late 20s. I broke up with a toxic ex about a year ago and I’ve been walking...
Aroused state
Dear Dan: I'm a 31-year-old female. Last week I suddenly started to experience an overwhelming, compulsive, and near-constant state of physical arousal. I've masturbated...
Bad guys
Dear Dan: I met a guy right around the time my boyfriend dumped me. I met him on a dating site, but he was...
Consessions
Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old straight male. I’ve been with my 25-year-old partner for six years. I love her and think that we are...
Seattle and Denver
Savage Love Live swooped into Seattle’s Egyptian Theater and Denver’s Oriental Theater over the last two weekends. I couldn’t get to everyone’s questions at...
Secret bisexuality and dating app usage; Erectile dysfunction meds
Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old man who desires a monogamous relationship. I’m currently in an LTR with a 29-year-old woman. Despite my feelings about...
With extra lobster
Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You’re right! It is redundant to...
Crabs
Dear Dan: I’m a gay male in my 40s and I’ve been married to my husband for nine years. There was some mild infidelity...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’ve been faithfully reading your column in the Chicago Reader for years, and now I’m reaching out to you about my own...
Giving back for all the porn; Inappropriate dad jokes
Dear Dan: Over the years, I have consumed what I believe to be an average amount of porn for a 44-year-old hetero guy. I...
Cornhole; The perfect match; In need of a therapist
Dear Dan: What are your favorite uses for the butt plug besides putting it in your own butt or someone else’s butt?
— Fun Faggy...
Knowing you
Dear Dan: I'm a 40-year-old gay male. I live in a big city, in a dense neighborhood. While I've been working from home during COVID,...
