Savage Love

Dear Dan: Are you incapable of concision? Your answers are too long! You blather on, often rehashing the problem (unnecessary!) before giving four words...

Dear Dan: I like watersports, and I heard about a guy in a rural area who holds piss parties in his backyard. I found...

Dear Dan: I’ve been wondering: Since there are lesbians out there who occasionally crave cock, does the reverse also happen? Are there gay men...

I was honored to speak at JCCSF — Jewish Community Center of San Francisco — last week as a part of their “Uninhibited: About...

Dear Dan: I’m a foot-fetish guy who split up with my girlfriend of four years. She was into all the foot stuff, and we got into lots of other kinks. My concern is about meeting new women. I’m worried I’m not going to be able to perform for vanilla sex. I feel almost ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old straight woman facing a dilemma. I dated this guy about a year ago, and in many ways he was...

Dear Dan: A man impregnated me about a month into our relationship. He is adamantly against having the kid, as it’s too soon. I...

Dear Dan: I think my husband is addicted to porn. I find porn in his browser history almost every single day. He says I’m the only one he wants, but I find that hard to believe knowing he watches nonstop porn before fucking me. He also parties every time he goes on a...

Dear Dan: I had a stroke a year ago. The woman I was dating at the time stepped away. I have no hard feelings...

Dear Dan: I'm a straight man who’s been dating a woman for not quite four months. In the beginning things were light. But things...

Dear Dan: Something is bothering me and I don’t know where else to turn. I’m a bisexual man. I’ve been married to a great...

Dear readers: Two excellent writers stepped in to answer the Savage Love Letter of the Day while I was on vacation, and I wanted to share one of those responses in the column this week. Daniel Bergner is the award-winning author of four books of nonfiction. His ...