Savage Love

Dear Dan: I had an odd bit of awkwardness over the holidays. One of my wife’s nephews recently came out as gay, which is no problem at all for us, but it created friction in his immediate family. We were at a big extended-family dinner together, and after we sat ...

I had a great time at the live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Chicago’s Music Box Theatre. Audience members submitted questions on cards,...

Dear Dan: I’m a 35-year-old divorced man. I’ve been on plenty of dates since my marriage ended, but I invariably get asked this question on or before date number two: “Why did you get divorced?” This is where everything goes to shit. I’m honest: “We got divorced ...

Dear Dan: A straight male friend practices sounding and has for years. I am pretty sure he does other things that he isn’t telling anyone about — not even his wife. He has some medical questions about sounding. I am a pediatric nurse, so he brought his concerns to me...

Dear Dan: I'm a 31-year-old female. Last week I suddenly started to experience an overwhelming, compulsive, and near-constant state of physical arousal. I've masturbated...

Dear Dan: My husband is nearly 20 years older than me, which was never an issue early in our relationship. However, for approximately the...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of almost two years is wonderful, and we have had very few issues. But there is one thing that has...

Dear Dan: I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months. Prior to dating, I was clear with him that I would need to...

Dear Dan: About a year ago, I was pretending to read my boyfriend’s mind and jokingly said, “You want to put it in my...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay man in my late 20s finishing up a graduate program and dating a man who is 38. The sex...

Dear Dan: I’m a 24-year-old woman who just ended a five-year relationship. It sucked. I cried. It was my first breakup, so I’ve felt totally insane for the last three months. Now I’m in the dating world, and I go out with people only to find that we have no physical ...

Dear Dan: I am a twentysomething, straight, cis-female expat. How long do I have to wait to ask my German lover, who is übersensitive...