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I had a blast hosting Savage Lovecast Live at San Francisco’s Palace of Fine Arts. Audience members submitted questions before the show, and I...

Dear Dan: My husband and I are currently separated on a trial basis. He took all our condoms when he moved out, and I...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy in my 30s dating a woman in her mid-20s. We’ve been together for a year, and I’m crazy about her. In love, even. She’s gorgeous, sweet, kind, loving, and very sexual. She’s perfect. In her late teens and early 20s, she had a wild sex life...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy but my whole life I have wanted to be spanked by older men. Does this make any sense?...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight white woman in my early 30s. In theory, I’ve always been into men of all races — but in...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 18-year-old girl, and I have been dating my boyfriend for eight months. He recently told me that he wishes we never had sex because he feels like he raped himself by doing it. He has had some bad sexual experiences in the past, but he has ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 22-year-old straight male dating a 23-year-old woman. This is by far the most sexual relationship I’ve been in, which is...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I were having relationship issues until we tried something new: pegging. He wanted to try it, but he was...

Dear Dan: I’m a fortysomething gay male professor at a small college. I try hard not to get attracted to students, and usually succeed....

Dear Dan: I’m a single gay guy in my late 30s. I’m quite introverted and a bit shy, yet I have a big sexual...

Dear Dan: You often mention asexual people. I believe I may be one. I’m a 51-year-old woman. I’ve been separated from my opposite-sex partner for nearly nine years. I’ve been approached by a variety of men, each one interested in becoming “more than friends.” I haunt...

Dear readers: Two excellent writers stepped in to answer the Savage Love Letter of the Day while I was on vacation, and I wanted to share one of those responses in the column this week. Daniel Bergner is the award-winning author of four books of nonfiction. His ...