Savage Love

Dear Da: I’m a 43-year-old straight woman, and I spent the majority of my 30s celibate. At 40, I realized that while I wasn’t...

Dear Dan: I was involved with a straight man who enjoys cross-dressing and taking explicit photos. The problem is that the props he uses...

Dear Dan: I’ve recently discovered that being pinned down by my neck is a huge turn on for me. I love the feeling of...

Dear Dan: I am a kinky, youthful 72-year-old guy. I grew up in the Pleistocene era, when there was virtually no way to meet a kinky woman. I’ve had two vanilla marriages, and three months ago I ended a four-year vanilla relationship with the best woman I’ve ever met...

Dear Dan: My husband and I are a straight couple in our early 50s, and we’ve been married for more than 30 years. We were raised to wait for sex till we got married — this was back in the early ’80s — and we did. Our wedding night was pretty disappointing since ...

Dear Dan: My new partner is a swinger. Being GGG, I said, sure, we can go to swinger parties, even though I have often...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love. Dear Dan: I’m a 38-year-old cis het woman who...

Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old gay man who just got out of an abusive relationship. We were together five years, moved to Portland together,...

Dear Dan: I am a bi, white, married man — 35 years old and living in a big Midwestern city. I’d like to know...

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old gay man living in California. Why are most tops such assholes? I have had plenty of sexual partners ranging...

Dear Dan: I just attended the nauseating wedding of my 30-year-old niece to her boyfriend of several years. Both of them seem as gay as...

Dear Dan: I’m positive you’ve written something about this in the past. I have searched your archives but have only managed to find people...