Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a man from a very liberal background. Recently, a girl I started dating — a girl from a similar background —...

Dear Dan: I’ve been aware of my emetophilia since a very young age and have always kept it private. No need to tell me...

Dear Dan: I’ve heard your calls for bisexuals to come out to their friends and family, and I think it’s a great idea. Here’s my conundrum: I’m not sure I technically classify as “bisexual.” I’m a 40-year-old guy who strongly prefers sex with women to men (percentage-...

Gays and confused

Dear Dan: I’m a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior. This has by far...

Dear Dan: I am a straight female who was a dominatrix for a while — and out of all the jobs I’ve had, I loved it the most. Working as a secretary — one with a master’s in writing — wasn’t that hard to beat, I guess. But professional dommes aren’t immune to workplace ...

Dear Dan: I’m an 18-year-old cis hetero girl from Australia and I’ve been listening to your podcast and reading your column since I...

Dear Dan: If I first met someone on a hookup site or at a sex party and then we start seeing each other, what’s...

Dear Dan: As you can see by my signature, Dan, I’m a linguist. On your podcast you frequently ask researchers “whatchyougot” on all kinds...

Dear Dan: I am a 37-year-old heterosexual woman in a monogamous relationship with a het cis male. Let’s call him “Rick.” We’ve been together...

Dear Dan: I'm a cis bi guy in my 40s who doesn’t have a lot of experience with other men. I'm happily married to...

Dear Dan: Twenty-one-year-old female here. When we were both 14, my first boyfriend took advantage of me. I wanted to explore my sexuality a little, but things went further than I wanted...