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Dear Dan: I’m a man from a very liberal background. Recently, a girl I started dating — a girl from a similar background —...

Dear Dan: My new partner is a swinger. Being GGG, I said, sure, we can go to swinger parties, even though I have often...

Dear Dan: I recently ended a relationship that lasted a year and five months. While I loved this woman, for much of the relationship she was, to varying degrees, depressed. I tried to be as helpful and patient as possible with the hope and expectation that she would ...

Dead Dan: My husband recently passed away. He was a wonderful person and we had twelve great 12 together. He was also very, very...

Dear Dan: I'm a cis male in my late 20s. I've recently become consumed by a specific fantasy I fear is unattainable, a fear...

Dear Dan: I’ve been wondering: Since there are lesbians out there who occasionally crave cock, does the reverse also happen? Are there gay men...

Dear Dan: I’m a cute, mostly straight, twentysomething, single and (safely) sexually active woman. This happens to me pretty often: I hook up with a guy, we start fooling around, and we’re both really into it. I reach down, and he’s full sail. Things progress — ...

Dear Dan: Borrowing Gen Z's love for labeling everything, I'm a 46-year-old homoromantic asexual Canadian faggot. For me that means I'd like to love...

Dear Dan: My question is on managing “gray area” intimacies during the pandemic. I have a lover/friend that I’ve been hanging out with—fucking, drinking...

READERS: A crowd of smart, engaged students packed a theater for Savage Love Live at Centenary College of Louisiana last week. Centenary is a terrific liberal-arts school in Shreveport. Centenary students submitted more Qs than I could possibly A in the 90 ...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: I’m a gay Black man in my...

Dear Dan: My wife and I went through a long-distance period when we were still dating and she went away to school. I used porn as a masturbatory aid during that time. I did not tell her this, as she believes that porn use is equivalent to cheating. Well, fast-forward...