Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a queer girl living with a male partner. This weekend, we found ourselves in an after-hours club, made some new friends,...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of two years cannot climax or maintain an erection unless his testicles are handled, squeezed, pulled, or pressed on (preferably with my stockinged foot or knee). Needless to say, intercourse does not work very well, and our sexual repertoire ...

Dear Dan: Straight female with a question. It’s about something that sometimes happens to me that I’ve never really told anyone about because it’s so weird and gross. It involves my bowel movements, so it’s not very sexy. (No offense to scat lovers, but I have zero ...

Dear Dan: I'm a straight man who’s been dating a woman for not quite four months. In the beginning things were light. But things...

Dear Dan: I’ve talked to my girlfriends, my mom and his mom, but I need some unbiased advice. I’m a 28-year-old woman in a relationship for three-and-a-half years with a wonderful man, also 28...

Dear Dan: We’re a happily married couple from Europe, longtime readers, both in our 30s, and both interested in having sex sometimes with other...

Dear Dan: I can orgasm without stimulating my clitoris — but only through anal sex. What gives...

Dear Dan: Hello! I am a heterosexual man! My wife came out as a lesbian after 30 years of marriage. We have children together...

Dear Dan: I’m an adult man, and I have developed a trans attraction after following a particular Tumblr blog. That blog is now gone,...

Dear Dan: I have always wanted to have a girls-only sex party, but I’m not sure how I feel about actually organizing one. What’s the etiquette if I do organize one myself? Do I need to provide the dildos for people’s harnesses? Or just the condoms and lube? And how ...

Dear Dan: You’ve said that everyone is entitled to a “zone of erotic autonomy.” I was wondering if you thought that “zone” extends to...

Thanksgiving-themed columns from years past