Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a single gay male in my 40s. I have a good life and do good work. I’m not worried about finding...

Dear Dan: I’m a 27-year-old woman whose boyfriend recently broke up with her. Along with the usual feelings of grief and heartbreak, I’m feeling...

Dear Dan: I’m a 36-year-old straight woman. I was sexually and physically abused as a kid, and raped in my early 20s. I have...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old woman from Melbourne, Australia, dating a 24-year-old man. We’ve been dating for about eight months; it is exclusive and...

Dear Dan: I’m what was once quaintly called a “woman of a certain age” who started reading your column to broaden my horizons. As a result, some curiosities peeped their heads over the boundaries of my once happily repressed existence. I summoned the courage to ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old male. I’ve been with my wife for 15 years. I know that passion transitions in a long-term relationship, but...

Dear Dan: I’m a woman in an open relationship of four years. I adore my partner. When we were first dating, it was casual...

Dear Dan: I’ve always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me. Lately, I’ve been exploring “bondage...

Dear Dan: Any advice for a first-time sex-toy buyer? I’m looking into vibrators, but I don’t want to spend a bunch of money on...

This is a preview of this week’s Savage Love. The full version is now exclusively available on Dan’s website Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: A friend hooked...

Dear Dan: Last month at a house party, my boyfriend accidentally burned my chin, neck, and cleavage during a clumsily executed volcano shot. I was literally on fire for a few seconds. Some doctor appointments, burn creams, bandages, and awkward scabbing later, I’m ...

Dear Dan: I'm a 34-year-old straight cis male. About 18 months ago I met a lovely human that I'm crazy about. When we started...