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Dear Dan: I’ve been dating this guy for almost two months. It’s been pretty good, except the sex isn’t really the best. I have this other male friend who has had a crush on me. Long story short: My friend made a move on me the other night. I told him I couldn’t, and ...

Dear Dan: I think my husband is addicted to porn. I find porn in his browser history almost every single day. He says I’m the only one he wants, but I find that hard to believe knowing he watches nonstop porn before fucking me. He also parties every time he goes on a...

Dear Dan: I am a guy in my 40s, handsome, more financially successful than most, and a classic sexual scoundrel. I cheated on my...

Dear Dan: Is it a super douchey move to pretend to be a lesbian to avoid unwanted male attention? I’m a straight single woman...

Dear Dan: I write you from Italy, where I follow you through Internazionale. I am a guy in his 30s sexually paralyzed with his...

I was honored to appear with Esther Perel at the Orpheum Theater in Vancouver, BC, a few weeks ago to discuss her new book,...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of eight months, K, and I are polyamorous. We started the relationship on that foot, and for a while I...

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old straight guy with a small dick. I have a girlfriend of seven years. When we met, I was really...

Dear Dan: I'm a 35-year-old woman. I recently discovered I'm a size queen. (Is it OK for me to use this term?) This has...

Dear Dan: I’m having a problem advising a friend. She’s been through a divorce and now the breaking off of an engagement. To put...

Hey, Everybody: We had our first Savage Love Livestream event last Thursday night and I had such a blast! A huge crowd of Savage...

Dear readers: Two excellent writers stepped in to answer the Savage Love Letter of the Day while I was on vacation, and I wanted to share one of those responses in the column this week. Daniel Bergner is the award-winning author of four books of nonfiction. His ...