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Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old bi male. I’ve been with my wife for five years, married nine months. A month into our relationship, I...

Dear Dan: My father is 65 years old and has been a devoted husband to my mother who has been battling a medical condition for the past 30 years — a condition that prevents her from engaging in sexual activity of any kind. He has not had sex in all this time and is ...

Dear Dan: I am a 38-year-old lesbian, very femme, very out. I have a coworker I can’t figure out. We’ve worked together for a...

Dear Dan: I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and we have a great relationship — or so I thought. Last week, I...

Dear Dan: I’m a 25-year-old gay male into puppy play. About a year ago, I joined a pack with one Sir and several puppies. I became very close to one of my “pup bros” and became his alpha — meaning between the two of us, I’m more Dom but still sub to our Sir. Fast-...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 26-year-old man who wants advice on helping my fiancée realize a particular fantasy. We have been dating for three years and are in a happy monogamous relationship. I was always vanilla, but she enjoys rougher sex and light bondage. We’ve ...

Dear Dan: I’m a longtime fan — reader and listener — and part of the 47 percent of white women who did NOT vote...

Savage Love Live stormed into Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. Comedian Corina Lucas absolutely killed it before our sold-out crowd, singer-songwriter Elisabeth Pixley-Fink performed...

Dear Dan: We have a new shorthand term for BDSM doms who are abusive assholes: Ghomeshi doms. Good guys into BDSM should stick this in their online profiles: “I’m a nice, non-Ghomeshi dom looking for a lady who is into...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight cis woman in my early 40s and a single mother. I have not dated or hooked up with anyone...

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old gay man living in California. Why are most tops such assholes? I have had plenty of sexual partners ranging...

Hey, Everybody: We had our first Savage Love Livestream event last Thursday night and I had such a blast! A huge crowd of Savage...