Savage Love

Dear Dan: I am a straight male, 30, in a long-term monogamous relationship. I love my wife; we have good sex, and often. When we first got together, I had a mild foot fetish, and she has gorgeous pedis. We have done and still do foot play on occasion. But my fetish ...

Dear Dan: My fiancée is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn — no addiction, no violent...

Dear Dan: A few months ago, I started dating someone. I made it clear early on that I didn’t feel comfortable being in a...

Dear Dan: I am a 56-year-heterosexual man, and I have lived with ALS for the past six years. I am either in a wheelchair...

Dear Dan: I know you and other sexperts say that kinks are ingrained and not something you can get rid of, but mine have...

Dear Dan: My son is 15 going on 16, and he’s been experimenting with masturbation. At the moment, I pretty much just think fine, whatever, he’s a teenager, there’s very little I can do about it. So long as he doesn’t get porn-obsessed and start letting his grades ...

Dear Dan: I have always wanted to have a girls-only sex party, but I’m not sure how I feel about actually organizing one. What’s the etiquette if I do organize one myself? Do I need to provide the dildos for people’s harnesses? Or just the condoms and lube? And how ...

Dear Dan: Young, gay, gym member. A few years ago, I was alone in the sauna when this older guy asked if he could...

Dear Dan: I’m a 35-year-old man in a serious relationship — the best I’ve ever been in — with a girl I’ll likely marry....

Dear Dan: How can I explain to my sisters that although I am a free sexual woman, I still prefer men as sexual partners?...

Dear Dan: I’m an American woman living abroad and have started a relationship with a wonderful man from a Middle Eastern country. We are having a great time exploring what is a foreign country for both of us. The looming issue is sex, of course. He is a moderate ...

Dear Dan: Here’s the Reader’s Digest Condensed Version: I’m a sexually inactive (by my own choice) heterosexual female in my late 40s who up until recently used to be much heavier and in rapidly declining health. Since my type 2 diabetes diagnosis, I have achieved ...