Savage Love
The sins of the grandfather
Dear Dan: My grandfather was a pillar of the community and beloved by his family. He was also sexually abusive. He died when I...
Don’t give up
Dear Dan: Borrowing Gen Z's love for labeling everything, I'm a 46-year-old homoromantic asexual Canadian faggot. For me that means I'd like to love...
Dramatis Personae
Dear Dan: I’m someone who does gay porn for a living. How do people who do gay porn meet someone who doesn’t just sexualize...
Parental controls
Dead Dan: My father passed away suddenly. I had a very idyllic childhood and was close to my father and my mother (who is...
Shafted
Dear Dan: I’m a European heterosexual girl and reading your column from afar has been a good way for me to better know the...
Bottoming out
Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old gay man living in California. Why are most tops such assholes? I have had plenty of sexual partners ranging...
Bluff calls
Dear Dan: I’m a heterosexual cis woman in a monogamous marriage. My husband and I have always struggled to connect sexually, mostly because he...
Boundaries
Dear Dan: My son has always liked handcuffs and tying people up as a form of play. He is 12 now, and the delight...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months. Prior to dating, I was clear with him that I would need to...
Managing partners; Mutual GGG
Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend (also 28) for three years. Our relationship is monogamous and vanilla. I’m...
Direct messages
Dead Dan: My husband recently passed away. He was a wonderful person and we had twelve great 12 together. He was also very, very...
Add it up
Dear Dan: I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a straight woman...
