Savage Love
What happened
Dear Dan: I used to be a fan of your column, Dan, but something happened to you. Maybe it’s stress, the current political climate,...
Savage Love 6/30/22
(Weekly deadlines being what they are, this column was written before the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade.)
We knew this was coming, thanks to...
Parental controls
Dead Dan: My father passed away suddenly. I had a very idyllic childhood and was close to my father and my mother (who is...
Lesborama
Dear Dan: I am a 38-year-old lesbian, very femme, very out. I have a coworker I can’t figure out. We’ve worked together for a...
Only for love
Dear Dan: I'm a 28-year-old queer woman. It’s been a while since I’ve been in a relationship, as it was impossible for me to...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months. Prior to dating, I was clear with him that I would need to...
It’s bad
Dear Dan: I’m a 22-year-old straight male dating a 23-year-old woman. This is by far the most sexual relationship I’ve been in, which is...
The mourning after in America
Dear Dan: I’m a longtime fan — reader and listener — and part of the 47 percent of white women who did NOT vote...
Bottoming out
Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old gay man living in California. Why are most tops such assholes? I have had plenty of sexual partners ranging...
Dramatis Personae
Dear Dan: I’m someone who does gay porn for a living. How do people who do gay porn meet someone who doesn’t just sexualize...
Pride and preference
I’m taking a week off, so this week’s “Savage Love” is a reprint of a column that was originally published on January 13, 2016....
Don’t give up
Dear Dan: Borrowing Gen Z's love for labeling everything, I'm a 46-year-old homoromantic asexual Canadian faggot. For me that means I'd like to love...
