Savage Love
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’m a woman who recently went out on a third date with a man. I invited him back to my place and...
Quickies
DEAR READERS: I live in Seattle, the U.S. epicenter of the novel coronavirus epidemic, with my family. A lot of my readers wrote this...
De-kinked
Dear Dan: I know you and other sexperts say that kinks are ingrained and not something you can get rid of, but mine have...
Add it up
Dear Dan: I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a straight woman...
Choking hazard
Dear Dan: I'm a 29-year-old straight woman in Pennsylvania. My question is to do with choking and consent. I've had two experiences in the past...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months. Prior to dating, I was clear with him that I would need to...
Tall order
Dear Dan: I'm a cis male in my late 20s. I've recently become consumed by a specific fantasy I fear is unattainable, a fear...
Switched on
Dear Dan: You’ve said that everyone is entitled to a “zone of erotic autonomy.” I was wondering if you thought that “zone” extends to...
Pissy
Dear Dan: I like watersports, and I heard about a guy in a rural area who holds piss parties in his backyard. I found...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I was dumped in August by a guy I was seeing for 10 months. He told me that he wants to work...
Toy boy
Dear Dan: I’m positive you’ve written something about this in the past. I have searched your archives but have only managed to find people...
Dramatis Personae
Dear Dan: I’m someone who does gay porn for a living. How do people who do gay porn meet someone who doesn’t just sexualize...
