Savage Love
Open wide
Dear Dan: My roommate is a gay man who is into getting fisted. A lot. We were FWBs until he moved into my place,...
Sex life dud; Bi guy woes
Dear Dan: Straight male, 48, married 14 years, three kids under age 10. Needless to say, life is busy at our house. My wife...
Loaded question
Dear Dan: Let’s say my kink is edging and I edge myself for a few days leading up to a date. Is it my...
Standards
Dear Dan: I’m a Seattle local who basically grew up reading your column. I think you’ve always given really sound advice, so I’m reaching...
Sorry dude, I’m a ‘lesbian;’ Worried about my stripper friend
Dear Dan: Is it a super douchey move to pretend to be a lesbian to avoid unwanted male attention? I’m a straight single woman...
Come the revolution
Dear Dan: I’m a straight woman and have been sexually active for about six years. I’m in my mid-20s now and about ready to...
Quickies
Dear Dan: Can I still be considered sex-positive if I personally do not have sex? I’ve never had sex or masturbated—all my life, any...
Blocked
Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I were friends for a couple of years (we're both 30-year-old gay men), then I stopped traveling around the...
Polyamorist’s plaything
Dear Dan: I am a 34-year-old straight woman. I’m monogamous and have an avoidant attachment style. I’ve been seeing a guy I really like....
Boundaries
Dear Dan: I’m a 42-year-old single, straight female who recently started dating a 36-year-old man in a somewhat exclusive, long-distance relationship. We have known...
Getting back in the gay groove
Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old gay man who just got out of an abusive relationship. We were together five years, moved to Portland together,...
Amazed and confused
Dear Dan: I’ve been with the same amazing man a dozen years. We’ve had our ups and our downs, same as any other couple,...
