Savage Love
Kinked gays
Dear Dan: I have a question. I’m a gay man in a relationship and we’re both really happy since we met a year ago....
Sorry dude, I’m a ‘lesbian;’ Worried about my stripper friend
Dear Dan: Is it a super douchey move to pretend to be a lesbian to avoid unwanted male attention? I’m a straight single woman...
Open wide
Dear Dan: My roommate is a gay man who is into getting fisted. A lot. We were FWBs until he moved into my place,...
Standards
Dear Dan: I’m a Seattle local who basically grew up reading your column. I think you’ve always given really sound advice, so I’m reaching...
Loaded question
Dear Dan: Let’s say my kink is edging and I edge myself for a few days leading up to a date. Is it my...
Blocked
Dear Dan: My boyfriend and I were friends for a couple of years (we're both 30-year-old gay men), then I stopped traveling around the...
Getting back in the gay groove
Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old gay man who just got out of an abusive relationship. We were together five years, moved to Portland together,...
Quickies
Dear Dan: Can I still be considered sex-positive if I personally do not have sex? I’ve never had sex or masturbated—all my life, any...
Come the revolution
Dear Dan: I’m a straight woman and have been sexually active for about six years. I’m in my mid-20s now and about ready to...
Cringe and purge
Dear Dan: I’m a 59-year-old man in good health. For basically my whole adult life, I’ve had this problem during intercourse with a woman...
Amazed and confused
Dear Dan: I’ve been with the same amazing man a dozen years. We’ve had our ups and our downs, same as any other couple,...
Polyamorist’s plaything
Dear Dan: I am a 34-year-old straight woman. I’m monogamous and have an avoidant attachment style. I’ve been seeing a guy I really like....
