Savage Love
With extra lobster
Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You’re right! It is redundant to...
Outer limits
Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit...
Bloody business
Dear Dan: I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire...
Quickies
Dear Dan: Can I still be considered sex-positive if I personally do not have sex? I’ve never had sex or masturbated—all my life, any...
Improv classes, dating apps and navigating kinks
Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old woman, and about a year ago I started taking improv classes to help combat my social anxiety. I met...
Devastation
Dear Dan: I am at a loss. I am devastated. I just found out my husband has been sexting with another woman. As if...
Fantasy figures
Dear Dan: I’ve been married for 30 years to the same man. I have dealt with his tantrums, his screaming, and his fits. He’s...
Gay dream believer
Dear Dan: I'm wondering if you can help me with some dream interpretation. If it helps for context, I'm a single 29-year-old gay man....
Sex life dud; Bi guy woes
Dear Dan: Straight male, 48, married 14 years, three kids under age 10. Needless to say, life is busy at our house. My wife...
European adventures
Dear Dan: We're an adventurous, bisexual, non-monogamous, opposite-sex couple with a teenage kid living in Europe. We don't really struggle with finding and trying...
Kinked gays
Dear Dan: I have a question. I’m a gay man in a relationship and we’re both really happy since we met a year ago....
Loaded question
Dear Dan: Let’s say my kink is edging and I edge myself for a few days leading up to a date. Is it my...
