Savage Love
Improv classes, dating apps and navigating kinks
Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old woman, and about a year ago I started taking improv classes to help combat my social anxiety. I met...
Knowing you
Dear Dan: I'm a 40-year-old gay male. I live in a big city, in a dense neighborhood. While I've been working from home during COVID,...
Outer limits
Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit...
Sex life dud; Bi guy woes
Dear Dan: Straight male, 48, married 14 years, three kids under age 10. Needless to say, life is busy at our house. My wife...
Quickies
Dear Dan: Can I still be considered sex-positive if I personally do not have sex? I’ve never had sex or masturbated—all my life, any...
Devastation
Dear Dan: I am at a loss. I am devastated. I just found out my husband has been sexting with another woman. As if...
Fantasy figures
Dear Dan: I’ve been married for 30 years to the same man. I have dealt with his tantrums, his screaming, and his fits. He’s...
Open wide
Dear Dan: My roommate is a gay man who is into getting fisted. A lot. We were FWBs until he moved into my place,...
Loaded question
Dear Dan: Let’s say my kink is edging and I edge myself for a few days leading up to a date. Is it my...
Kinked gays
Dear Dan: I have a question. I’m a gay man in a relationship and we’re both really happy since we met a year ago....
Standards
Dear Dan: I’m a Seattle local who basically grew up reading your column. I think you’ve always given really sound advice, so I’m reaching...
Come the revolution
Dear Dan: I’m a straight woman and have been sexually active for about six years. I’m in my mid-20s now and about ready to...
