Savage Love
Boundaries
Dear Dan: I’m a 42-year-old single, straight female who recently started dating a 36-year-old man in a somewhat exclusive, long-distance relationship. We have known...
Direct messages
Dead Dan: My husband recently passed away. He was a wonderful person and we had twelve great 12 together. He was also very, very...
Jealous typologies
Dear Dan: I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for the past year. The only problem is that he works with a...
Savage Love: Nov. 09, 2023
Dear Dan: I have a question that is neither related to sex or relationships, but rather on the ethics of doing a theater project...
Fuck around and find out
Dear Dan: I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and we have a great relationship — or so I thought. Last week, I...
Outer limits
Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit...
Fantasy figures
Dear Dan: I’ve been married for 30 years to the same man. I have dealt with his tantrums, his screaming, and his fits. He’s...
Don’t give up
Dear Dan: Borrowing Gen Z's love for labeling everything, I'm a 46-year-old homoromantic asexual Canadian faggot. For me that means I'd like to love...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I am a super queer presenting female who recently accepted that I have desires for men. My partner of two years is bisexual...
Reunion blues
Dear Dan: I fell in love with my second cousin about four years ago at a family reunion. (I hadn’t laid eyes on him...
Racist partner; Gay bar bachelorette parties; Secret stash of porn featuring...
Dear Dan: I’m 33, blah blah blah, and live in a big city. I’ve been dating an age-appropriate person for a year and a...
Improv classes, dating apps and navigating kinks
Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old woman, and about a year ago I started taking improv classes to help combat my social anxiety. I met...
