Savage Love
Open and shut
Dear Dan: Straight guy here in a one-sided open relationship. My wife and I opened our relationship just for her and to females only,...
Savage Love
Q: I’m a 40-year-old female, cis-het. I have very discerning tastes in men, and always end up alone. Any way to be more open...
Big little lies
Dear Dan: I’m a gay man in my late 20s finishing up a graduate program and dating a man who is 38. The sex...
Savage Love: Nov. 09, 2023
Dear Dan: I have a question that is neither related to sex or relationships, but rather on the ethics of doing a theater project...
Reunion blues
Dear Dan: I fell in love with my second cousin about four years ago at a family reunion. (I hadn’t laid eyes on him...
Bloody business
Dear Dan: I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire...
Brownie points
I’m a cis bi woman, and I mainly have sex with people with penises. I have a really gross problem, sorry. It’s been an...
Old times
Dear Dan: I’m a nearly-80 straight male, with undiminished libido. I have no problem with it, just a persistent curiosity. Like, why now? And...
Jealous typologies
Dear Dan: I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for the past year. The only problem is that he works with a...
With extra lobster
Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You’re right! It is redundant to...
Outer limits
Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit...
Quickies
Dear Dan: Can I still be considered sex-positive if I personally do not have sex? I’ve never had sex or masturbated—all my life, any...
