Savage Love
Quickies
DEAR READERS: I live in Seattle, the U.S. epicenter of the novel coronavirus epidemic, with my family. A lot of my readers wrote this...
Sorry dude, I’m a ‘lesbian;’ Worried about my stripper friend
Dear Dan: Is it a super douchey move to pretend to be a lesbian to avoid unwanted male attention? I’m a straight single woman...
Streamers
Hey, Everybody: We had our first Savage Love Livestream event last Thursday night and I had such a blast! A huge crowd of Savage...
Switched on
Dear Dan: You’ve said that everyone is entitled to a “zone of erotic autonomy.” I was wondering if you thought that “zone” extends to...
Getting back in the gay groove
Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old gay man who just got out of an abusive relationship. We were together five years, moved to Portland together,...
Boundaries
Dear Dan: I’m a 42-year-old single, straight female who recently started dating a 36-year-old man in a somewhat exclusive, long-distance relationship. We have known...
Everybody hurts, everybody cries
Dear Dan: My ex-boyfriend and I were together for a year and a half. He is a silver fox who is significantly older than...
Bound and gagging
Dear Dan: I’ve always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me. Lately, I’ve been exploring “bondage...
Women and men
Dear Dan: I’m a woman in an open relationship of four years. I adore my partner. When we were first dating, it was casual...
Disclosed
Dear Dan: Garbage human here. I’ve had herpes for about 15 years. The first five years, I was in a relationship with a guy...
Secret perving
Dear Dan: I’ve been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast. I have a delightful...
Cringe and purge
Dear Dan: I’m a 59-year-old man in good health. For basically my whole adult life, I’ve had this problem during intercourse with a woman...
