Savage Love
Getting back in the gay groove
Dear Dan: I’m a 37-year-old gay man who just got out of an abusive relationship. We were together five years, moved to Portland together,...
Open ended
Dear Dan: I’m a mid-20s cis straight man. After my girlfriend and I finished college, she moved overseas to start her job. We’ve broken...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’m a woman who recently went out on a third date with a man. I invited him back to my place and...
Boundaries
Dear Dan: I’m a 42-year-old single, straight female who recently started dating a 36-year-old man in a somewhat exclusive, long-distance relationship. We have known...
Secret perving
Dear Dan: I’ve been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast. I have a delightful...
Why not me?
Dear Dan: I found your column after a Google search. I saw your e-mail address at the bottom and was hoping for some insight....
Necking
Dear Dan: In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of...
Quickies
DEAR READERS: I live in Seattle, the U.S. epicenter of the novel coronavirus epidemic, with my family. A lot of my readers wrote this...
Managing partners; Mutual GGG
Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend (also 28) for three years. Our relationship is monogamous and vanilla. I’m...
Lost kinkster
Dear Dan: My new partner is a swinger. Being GGG, I said, sure, we can go to swinger parties, even though I have often...
Bound and gagging
Dear Dan: I’ve always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me. Lately, I’ve been exploring “bondage...
Showing up
Dear Dan: How does one get into the gay BDSM bottoming and leather scene?
— Seeking Answers Concerning Kink
Dear SACK: One shows up, SACK. “Eighty...
