Savage Love

Dear Dan: We’re a happily married couple from Europe, longtime readers, both in our 30s, and both interested in having sex sometimes with other...

Dear Dan: I have a dildo that I loooooove, and I was wondering if it’s safe for me to use it in both my ass and my cunt. I would clean it in between uses/orifices, of course, and it has a flared base, so it’s safe for anal play. Can I do this or do I need to get ...

Dear Dan: About a year ago, I was pretending to read my boyfriend’s mind and jokingly said, “You want to put it in my...

Dear Dan: Straight guy here in a one-sided open relationship. My wife and I opened our relationship just for her and to females only,...

Dear Dan: I’m a lost little lesbian. I have been with my partner for the past four years. She’s 27 and I’m 26. These have been four magical years. We love each other, our parents are happy for us, and we make a great team. My girlfriend deployed to Afghanistan, and I...

(Weekly deadlines being what they are, this column was written before the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade.) We knew this was coming, thanks to...

Dear Dan: I’m committed to my male partner and he’s committed to me. (I’m a woman.) But we both understand we need to flirt...

Dear Dan: 42-year-old dad here. I’ve been married for 12 years, and my marriage has been somewhat turbulent. But after some affairs—one where my...

Dear Dan: Living my truth permits others in my fairly conservative circles — Christian family struggling to accept a gay son, colleagues in a...

Savage Love Live at Denver’s Oriental Theater last week was epic. I fielded sex questions in front of a sold-out crowd, singer-songwriter Rachel Lark...

Savage Love Live stormed into Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. Comedian Corina Lucas absolutely killed it before our sold-out crowd, singer-songwriter Elisabeth Pixley-Fink performed...

Dear Dan: I’m a reader in Kansas with two teenage daughters, 16 and 18. My girls recently met a boy where they work and...