Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a reader in Kansas with two teenage daughters, 16 and 18. My girls recently met a boy where they work and...

Dear Dan: You’ve said that everyone is entitled to a “zone of erotic autonomy.” I was wondering if you thought that “zone” extends to...

Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend (also 28) for three years. Our relationship is monogamous and vanilla. I’m...

Dear Dan: I’ve always wanted to tie girls up, but I can never convince a woman to let me. Lately, I’ve been exploring “bondage...

Dear Dan: I am a straight female who was a dominatrix for a while — and out of all the jobs I’ve had, I loved it the most. Working as a secretary — one with a master’s in writing — wasn’t that hard to beat, I guess. But professional dommes aren’t immune to workplace ...

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my mid-40s, and my significant other has a cuckolding fetish. My first response was “Oh, hell no!”...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy, married for 16 years, kids in school. My wife cannot find a way to be intimate with me. We’ve had therapy individually and together. I nearly divorced her, but we decided to stay together — we do love each other, and the economics and ...

Dear Dan: I’ve recently discovered that being pinned down by my neck is a huge turn on for me. I love the feeling of...

Dear Dan: I’m 33, blah blah blah, and live in a big city. I’ve been dating an age-appropriate person for a year and a...

Dear Dan: I’m a longtime fan — reader and listener — and part of the 47 percent of white women who did NOT vote...

READERS: A crowd of smart, engaged students packed a theater for Savage Love Live at Centenary College of Louisiana last week. Centenary is a terrific liberal-arts school in Shreveport. Centenary students submitted more Qs than I could possibly A in the 90 ...

Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old gay man who looks 45. Most men interested in me are surprisingly up-front about expressing their desire to include...