Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 26-year-old man who wants advice on helping my fiancée realize a particular fantasy. We have been dating for three years and are in a happy monogamous relationship. I was always vanilla, but she enjoys rougher sex and light bondage. We’ve ...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight white woman in my early 30s. In theory, I’ve always been into men of all races — but in...

Dear Dan: Is it a super douchey move to pretend to be a lesbian to avoid unwanted male attention? I’m a straight single woman...

Dear Dan: I have two questions...

Dear Dan: I'm a straight man who’s been dating a woman for not quite four months. In the beginning things were light. But things...

Dear Dan: I’m an 18-year-old cis hetero girl from Australia and I’ve been listening to your podcast and reading your column since I...

Dear Dan: I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire...

Dear Dan: I am a male grad student who is technically engaged to a female grad student. She has numerous positive qualities, but she is repulsed by sex. She is very sensitive about her repulsion and becomes distraught when I broach the subject. She says that even the...

Dear Dan: I'm a 34-year-old straight cis male. About 18 months ago I met a lovely human that I'm crazy about. When we started...

Dear Dan: I’m committed to my male partner and he’s committed to me. (I’m a woman.) But we both understand we need to flirt...

Dear Dan: We have a new shorthand term for BDSM doms who are abusive assholes: Ghomeshi doms. Good guys into BDSM should stick this in their online profiles: “I’m a nice, non-Ghomeshi dom looking for a lady who is into...

There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love.  Q: At a party recently I was chatting with...