Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m your average straight 42-year-old white guy. Married for a little less than a year (second marriage for both). We have an...

Dear Dan: I’m a 38-year-old bi woman who has been sleeping with a married male coworker for the last eight months. We’re a walking...

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old man who desires a monogamous relationship. I’m currently in an LTR with a 29-year-old woman. Despite my feelings about...

Dear Dan: About a year ago, I was pretending to read my boyfriend’s mind and jokingly said, “You want to put it in my...

Dear Dan: I’m a hetero guy in need of advice. Back in college, I met this girl. Suffice it to say she was into me but I had some shit to work through. So we ended up being a missed connection, romantically. Despite that, we still became fast friends. I’m less ...

Dear Dan: I'm a heavy sleeper, and my wife knows that, but not so heavy that I don't wake up when she periodically masturbates...

My boyfriend of three months, “Marcus,” told me last week that he is a trans man. He’s performed oral sex on me and fingered me, but he never let me reciprocate and told me he didn’t want to have penis-in-vagina sex yet because that was a large commitment. We go to ...

DEAR DAN: I’m a 35-year-old straight woman, recently married, and everything is great. But I have been having problems reaching orgasm. When we first...

Dear Dan: What is your stance on maintenance sex? I’d never thought about the issue until reading Amy Poehler’s new memoir. I didn’t find anything she said controversial, and was surprised when this quote blew up in the feminist blogosphere: “You have to have sex ...

Dear Dan: Is it legal for a man to procure the services of a dominatrix? In the kind of session I have in mind, there’s no nudity or sexual activity or contact involved. There’s not even any whipping or flogging or caning or hardcore BDSM stuff. I just want to see ...

Dear Dan: My girlfriend can’t use hormonal birth control and “doesn’t like” condoms but wants sex. What would you do? — Paternal Anxiety Upsetting Sexual Escapades...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 20-yearold woman in a relationship with a straight 30-year-old male. We have been dating for a year and living together for seven months. There is a lot of love but there has also been a lot of arguing. Our conflicts stem from issues of abuse...