Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a virgin in my late 20s. I’m not waiting until marriage, just for the right person. I’ve dated enough and had...

Dear Dan: I'm a 29-year-old straight woman in Pennsylvania. My question is to do with choking and consent. I've had two experiences in the past...

Dear Dan: I consider myself one of the lucky ones: happily married for decades, with a long-term girlfriend. GF is at this point part of the family, and while it hasn’t always been an easy arrangement to sort out, it has worked for over a decade. Recently, I’ve been ...

Dear Dan: I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire...

Dear Dan: My husband recently admitted that he masturbates once a day, sometimes twice. My confusion stems from the fact that we have sex once a day, sometimes twice. We’ve had problems in the past with him staring at other women (everyone does it, but I do feel ...

Dear Dan: My husband and I have a pretty good sex life considering we are raising three kids, we both work full time, and...

Dear Dan: I am quite the follower on social media — Facebook and Twitter in particular. I make no trolling comments, no #MAGA hashtags;...

Dear Dan: I don't want to become one of those people who write to you complaining about how I married someone I wasn't sexually...

Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You’re right! It is redundant to...

Dear Dan: Last month at a house party, my boyfriend accidentally burned my chin, neck, and cleavage during a clumsily executed volcano shot. I was literally on fire for a few seconds. Some doctor appointments, burn creams, bandages, and awkward scabbing later, I’m ...

Dear Dan: My question is on managing “gray area” intimacies during the pandemic. I have a lover/friend that I’ve been hanging out with—fucking, drinking...

Dear Dan: Living my truth permits others in my fairly conservative circles — Christian family struggling to accept a gay son, colleagues in a...