Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a kinky single woman who keeps attracting the wrong men for me — specifically, submissive guys into face-sitting. I’m submissive myself,...

Dear Dan: Straight male, 48, married 14 years, three kids under age 10. Needless to say, life is busy at our house. My wife...

Dear Dan: Over the years, I have consumed what I believe to be an average amount of porn for a 44-year-old hetero guy. I...

DEAR READERS: This is the final week of my summer vacation — but you’ve been getting a new column every week I’ve been gone,...

Dear Dan: I have always wanted to have a girls-only sex party, but I’m not sure how I feel about actually organizing one. What’s the etiquette if I do organize one myself? Do I need to provide the dildos for people’s harnesses? Or just the condoms and lube? And how ...

Dear Dan: I am a genetic male with recurrent questions about my gender identity. Straddling desires to maintain my stature in the professional world, keep my wife at my side, and become who I feel like I am, I have experimented with crossdressing, chastity, ...

Dear Dan: I’m a longtime fan — reader and listener — and part of the 47 percent of white women who did NOT vote...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay man in my late 20s finishing up a graduate program and dating a man who is 38. The sex...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight woman in my early 30s, and I just don’t like receiving oral sex. I love giving blowjobs and can...

Dear Dan: My wife got drunk at a vacation house we rented with a bunch of friends and cheated on me with my best...

Dear Dan: I love that you use the term “cocksucker” only in a non-pejorative way. I don’t know if you’ve said so explicitly, but I imagine your aim is to remove its negative connotation. As the owner of a cock, I think cocksucking is WONDERFUL! Therefore, cocksuckers...

Dear Dan: About a year ago, I was pretending to read my boyfriend’s mind and jokingly said, “You want to put it in my...