Savage Love

Dear Dan: I am a twentysomething, straight, cis-female expat. How long do I have to wait to ask my German lover, who is übersensitive...

Dear Dan: Longtime Savage Love fanboy with a bit of a conundrum — and it’s your fault! I’m a bi man in my 30s....

Dear Dan: I'm a lesbian and my girlfriend is bi. I've read your column and listened to your podcast for a long time, Dan, and...

Dear Dan: My son is 15 going on 16, and he’s been experimenting with masturbation. At the moment, I pretty much just think fine, whatever, he’s a teenager, there’s very little I can do about it. So long as he doesn’t get porn-obsessed and start letting his grades ...

Dear Dan: I have always wanted to have a girls-only sex party, but I’m not sure how I feel about actually organizing one. What’s the etiquette if I do organize one myself? Do I need to provide the dildos for people’s harnesses? Or just the condoms and lube? And how ...

Dear Dan: I am a 29-year-old woman and I have a problem when I have sex or masturbate. I always feel an annoying pain, a...

Dear Dan: My BF and I have been dating for two years. He’s 21; I’m 20 (and female). When I noticed my boyfriend wanted...

Dear Dan: In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of...

Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy who’s involved with a guy I met a few months before COVID-19 took off. He's a great guy, smart,...

Dear Dan: What are your favorite uses for the butt plug besides putting it in your own butt or someone else’s butt? — Fun Faggy...

Dear Dan: I’m a 32-year-old straight guy. My wife and I have been married for four years and together for nine. We have a great...

Dear Dan: I lost my dad young and I had a bunch of issues growing up. I’m probably gay, I love the idea of light bondage, and I’ve been this way for as long as I can remember. I feel like I’ve been on a self-discovery thing over the past year and have caught tidbits ...