Savage Love
Kink monsters
Dear Dan: My husband and I (straight male/bi female couple) have been married 15 years. We are in our early 40s. When we met,...
Tumblr troubles; Enjoying my boyfriend
Dear Dan: I’m a gay male college student in a healthy D/s relationship with a bisexual guy. My boyfriend posts pictures of our kink...
Call me, maybe?; Bisexual cheating
Dear Dan: Longtime reader and listener (magnum podcast subscriber!) here, and I have a conundrum. My partner and I have a DADT agreement in...
The boyfriend experience
Dear Dan: Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal and human...
Choke hold
Dear Dan: I’ve recently discovered that being pinned down by my neck is a huge turn on for me. I love the feeling of...
Power players
Dear Dan: Here's a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and...
Dick down
Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in her 30s who lives on the East Coast. I’ve been in an LTR with the same cis man...
Put it in your spank bank, but don’t talk about it
Dear Dan:
I am quite the follower on social media — Facebook and Twitter in particular. I make no trolling comments, no #MAGA hashtags;...
I accidentally snooped, now should I confront my boyfriend about what...
Dear Dan: Gay, thirtysomething male in DC. My boyfriend of three years has been acting strange — not taking his antidepression meds, says he’s...
The epidemic of gay lonliness
Dear Dan: I’m a 40-something gay male. I’m single and cannot get a date or even a hookup. I’m short, overweight, average-looking and bald....
Do I tell him I’m intersex? Depends.
Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and live in the Midwest. I’m intersex, but I identify as female. I am not out about being...
Should I do it?; Wrong hole!
Dear Dan: I’m a virgin in my late 20s. I’m not waiting until marriage, just for the right person. I’ve dated enough and had...