Savage Love
Kink monsters
Dear Dan: My husband and I (straight male/bi female couple) have been married 15 years. We are in our early 40s. When we met,...
Where does religion fit in kink?
Dear Dan: I went to Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, the big kink hotel takeover event in Washington, D.C., in February. There was one thing...
The boyfriend experience
Dear Dan: Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal and human...
Choke hold
Dear Dan: I’ve recently discovered that being pinned down by my neck is a huge turn on for me. I love the feeling of...
Tumblr troubles; Enjoying my boyfriend
Dear Dan: I’m a gay male college student in a healthy D/s relationship with a bisexual guy. My boyfriend posts pictures of our kink...
Call me, maybe?; Bisexual cheating
Dear Dan: Longtime reader and listener (magnum podcast subscriber!) here, and I have a conundrum. My partner and I have a DADT agreement in...
The daddy files
Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old gay man who looks 45. Most men interested in me are surprisingly up-front about expressing their desire to include...
Put it in your spank bank, but don’t talk about it
Dear Dan:
I am quite the follower on social media — Facebook and Twitter in particular. I make no trolling comments, no #MAGA hashtags;...
Should I do it?; Wrong hole!
Dear Dan: I’m a virgin in my late 20s. I’m not waiting until marriage, just for the right person. I’ve dated enough and had...
Cucking dykes
Dear Dan: I’m a lesbian in a long-term relationship. After much conversation with my partner we’ve decided to explore cuckolding role-play together. I’m not...
Power players
Dear Dan: Here's a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and...
The epidemic of gay lonliness
Dear Dan: I’m a 40-something gay male. I’m single and cannot get a date or even a hookup. I’m short, overweight, average-looking and bald....








