Savage Love
Where does religion fit in kink?
Dear Dan: I went to Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, the big kink hotel takeover event in Washington, D.C., in February. There was one thing...
Tumblr troubles; Enjoying my boyfriend
Dear Dan: I’m a gay male college student in a healthy D/s relationship with a bisexual guy. My boyfriend posts pictures of our kink...
Dick down
Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in her 30s who lives on the East Coast. I’ve been in an LTR with the same cis man...
The boyfriend experience
Dear Dan: Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal and human...
Choke hold
Dear Dan: I’ve recently discovered that being pinned down by my neck is a huge turn on for me. I love the feeling of...
Call me, maybe?; Bisexual cheating
Dear Dan: Longtime reader and listener (magnum podcast subscriber!) here, and I have a conundrum. My partner and I have a DADT agreement in...
The daddy files
Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old gay man who looks 45. Most men interested in me are surprisingly up-front about expressing their desire to include...
Put it in your spank bank, but don’t talk about it
Dear Dan:
I am quite the follower on social media — Facebook and Twitter in particular. I make no trolling comments, no #MAGA hashtags;...
Power players
Dear Dan: Here's a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and...
Should I do it?; Wrong hole!
Dear Dan: I’m a virgin in my late 20s. I’m not waiting until marriage, just for the right person. I’ve dated enough and had...
The epidemic of gay lonliness
Dear Dan: I’m a 40-something gay male. I’m single and cannot get a date or even a hookup. I’m short, overweight, average-looking and bald....
I accidentally snooped, now should I confront my boyfriend about what...
Dear Dan: Gay, thirtysomething male in DC. My boyfriend of three years has been acting strange — not taking his antidepression meds, says he’s...








