Savage Love
Kink monsters
Dear Dan: My husband and I (straight male/bi female couple) have been married 15 years. We are in our early 40s. When we met,...
Tumblr troubles; Enjoying my boyfriend
Dear Dan: I’m a gay male college student in a healthy D/s relationship with a bisexual guy. My boyfriend posts pictures of our kink...
The boyfriend experience
Dear Dan: Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal and human...
Call me, maybe?; Bisexual cheating
Dear Dan: Longtime reader and listener (magnum podcast subscriber!) here, and I have a conundrum. My partner and I have a DADT agreement in...
Choke hold
Dear Dan: I’ve recently discovered that being pinned down by my neck is a huge turn on for me. I love the feeling of...
Dick down
Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in her 30s who lives on the East Coast. I’ve been in an LTR with the same cis man...
Put it in your spank bank, but don’t talk about it
Dear Dan:
I am quite the follower on social media — Facebook and Twitter in particular. I make no trolling comments, no #MAGA hashtags;...
Power players
Dear Dan: Here's a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and...
The daddy files
Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old gay man who looks 45. Most men interested in me are surprisingly up-front about expressing their desire to include...
The epidemic of gay lonliness
Dear Dan: I’m a 40-something gay male. I’m single and cannot get a date or even a hookup. I’m short, overweight, average-looking and bald....
Should I do it?; Wrong hole!
Dear Dan: I’m a virgin in my late 20s. I’m not waiting until marriage, just for the right person. I’ve dated enough and had...
I accidentally snooped, now should I confront my boyfriend about what...
Dear Dan: Gay, thirtysomething male in DC. My boyfriend of three years has been acting strange — not taking his antidepression meds, says he’s...
