Savage Love

Dear Dan: A big congrats to Caitlyn Jenner on her big reveal and lovely Vanity Fair cover! But I am having a crisis of conscience. On one hand, I support a person’s right to be whoever the heck they want to be. You want to wear women’s clothing and use makeup and ...

Dear Dan: My brother is a virgin and turning 30 in a few weeks. He said he wants to hire an escort just for...

Dear Dan: I’m 27 years old and I’ve been married to my partner for two years. I’m facing a conundrum: A relative sexually abused...

Dear Dan: My son is 19, but due to some physical and social disabilities (mostly unseen), his emotional maturity level is closer to 14, though he is quite intelligent. After a lifetime of therapists, specialized education, and other interventions, he is now a ...

Dear Dan: Last month at a house party, my boyfriend accidentally burned my chin, neck, and cleavage during a clumsily executed volcano shot. I was literally on fire for a few seconds. Some doctor appointments, burn creams, bandages, and awkward scabbing later, I’m ...

This is a preview of this week’s Savage Love. The full version is now exclusively available on Dan’s website Savage.Love.  Dear Dan: I’m a 36-year-old...

Dear Dan: I am a young gay man who has been so freaked out by the idea of catching an STI that I haven’t gotten with anyone for two years. But last night, I hooked up with a cute 21-year-old FTM trans boy, and maybe because it was a person with lady parts, I let ...

Dear Dan: I’m a lesbian who has been pretty successful at online dating. Lately, however, I’ve had a few women contact me who turn out not to be cisgender. I’ve tried to remain open, but I have never been attracted to a trans woman. I don’t rule out the possibility ...

Savage Love Live at Denver’s Oriental Theater last week was epic. I fielded sex questions in front of a sold-out crowd, singer-songwriter Rachel Lark...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy in my 30s dating a woman in her mid-20s. We’ve been together for a year, and I’m crazy about her. In love, even. She’s gorgeous, sweet, kind, loving, and very sexual. She’s perfect. In her late teens and early 20s, she had a wild sex life...

Dear Dan: Something is bothering me and I don’t know where else to turn. I’m a bisexual man. I’ve been married to a great...

Dear Dan: My partner and I have been playing with male chastity devices. We’ve been considering going to a strip club while his cock...