Savage Love

Dear Dan: I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and we have a great relationship — or so I thought. Last week, I...

Dear Dan: I am a bi, white, married man — 35 years old and living in a big Midwestern city. I’d like to know...

I was honored to appear with Esther Perel at the Orpheum Theater in Vancouver, BC, a few weeks ago to discuss her new book,...

Dear Dan: I have a dildo that I loooooove, and I was wondering if it’s safe for me to use it in both my ass and my cunt. I would clean it in between uses/orifices, of course, and it has a flared base, so it’s safe for anal play. Can I do this or do I need to get ...

I’m taking a week off, so this week’s “Savage Love” is a reprint of a column that was originally published on January 13, 2016....

Dear Dan: Young, gay, gym member. A few years ago, I was alone in the sauna when this older guy asked if he could...

Dear Dan: I’ve recently discovered that being pinned down by my neck is a huge turn on for me. I love the feeling of...

Dear Dan: A man impregnated me about a month into our relationship. He is adamantly against having the kid, as it’s too soon. I...

Dear Dan: I’ve been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast. I have a delightful...

Dear Dan: My first refractory period — the time it takes me to get ready to have sex again after my first orgasm — is...

Dear Dan: My wife and I went through a long-distance period when we were still dating and she went away to school. I used porn as a masturbatory aid during that time. I did not tell her this, as she believes that porn use is equivalent to cheating. Well, fast-forward...

Dear Dan: I’ve been wondering: Since there are lesbians out there who occasionally crave cock, does the reverse also happen? Are there gay men...