Savage Love
The daddy files
Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old gay man who looks 45. Most men interested in me are surprisingly up-front about expressing their desire to include...
Degrading games
Dear Dan: I am a pretty handsome gay (I have been told) and I am dating a gorgeous man. I am 34, and he...
Necking
Dear Dan: In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of...
Parental controls
Dead Dan: My father passed away suddenly. I had a very idyllic childhood and was close to my father and my mother (who is...
Poly wants
Dear Dan: I’m a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior. This has by far...
It’s bad
Dear Dan: I’m a 22-year-old straight male dating a 23-year-old woman. This is by far the most sexual relationship I’ve been in, which is...
Unanswered questions
I had a blast hosting Savage Lovecast Live at San Francisco’s Palace of Fine Arts. Audience members submitted questions before the show, and I...
Dicks deluxe
Dear Dan: A few months ago, I started dating someone. I made it clear early on that I didn’t feel comfortable being in a...
Sex while separated; Demisexuality?
Dear Dan: My husband and I are currently separated on a trial basis. He took all our condoms when he moved out, and I...
Stranger things
Dear Dan: I’m a lady considering taking on a foot fetishist as a slave. He would do chores around my house, including cleaning and...
Everybody hurts, everybody cries
Dear Dan: My ex-boyfriend and I were together for a year and a half. He is a silver fox who is significantly older than...
Don’t do a Nazi
Dear Dan: I’m a woman in my early 30s having sex with a guy in his early 20s. The sex is more than casual,...
