Savage Love
Fighting words
Dear Dan: I’m 27 years old and I’ve been married to my partner for two years. I’m facing a conundrum: A relative sexually abused...
Showing up
Dear Dan: How does one get into the gay BDSM bottoming and leather scene?
— Seeking Answers Concerning Kink
Dear SACK: One shows up, SACK. “Eighty...
Lesborama
Dear Dan: I am a 38-year-old lesbian, very femme, very out. I have a coworker I can’t figure out. We’ve worked together for a...
Mother love
Dear Dan: I’m an old guy, 68 years old to be exact. (Also a Scorpio, if that matters.) I’ve always been a pretty horny...
Bloody business
Dear Dan: I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire...
Runners
Dear Dan: I’ve been with my girlfriend “J” for two years. Her best friend “M” is a gay man she’s known since high school....
Quickies
Dear Dan: I have been with my unicorn boyfriend for four months. The sexual chemistry between us is out of this world! I’m a...
Not without guilt
Dear Dan: A man impregnated me about a month into our relationship. He is adamantly against having the kid, as it’s too soon. I...
Neurodiverse
Dear Dan: As a 36-year-old straight woman with autism, I am often misidentified as lesbian because my social signaling must read as masculine. I...
What happened
Dear Dan: I used to be a fan of your column, Dan, but something happened to you. Maybe it’s stress, the current political climate,...
Devastation
Dear Dan: I’m a straight man in a live-in relationship with a beautiful woman. There are no sparks in bed, and it’s been more...
Orpheum theater
I was honored to appear with Esther Perel at the Orpheum Theater in Vancouver, BC, a few weeks ago to discuss her new book,...
