Savage Love
#metoo bad behavior?
Dear Dan: I’m part of a nonhierarchical polycule. In a few months, one of my girlfriends will be marrying her fiancée. I’ll be attending...
The toll of mental health, using more sop, DTMFA and Dan...
Dear Dan: I’ve been in an on-again, off-again relationship for the past four years. My girlfriend has an assortment of mental-health issues — anxiety,...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’ve been faithfully reading your column in the Chicago Reader for years, and now I’m reaching out to you about my own...
Connections
Dear Dan: Longtime Savage Love fanboy with a bit of a conundrum — and it’s your fault! I’m a bi man in my 30s....
Lopsiders
Dear Dan: Bi married man here. I was always out to my wife, but two months ago, I came out to our tight circle...
Better after
Dear Dan: In a recent column, you said you never hear from married couples whose sex life got better and more frequent over the...
Baggage
Dear Dan: You ran a letter about a gay man (“Sam”) who has been sucking off his straight friend. Sam said he’s never done...
Blown away
Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy in a LTR with a bi woman. We recently had a threesome with a bi male acquaintance. We...
Retroactive blessings
Dear Dan: Without snooping, I came across texts between my wife “Mary” and a guy “Jeremy” of a very sexual nature. While I would...
Shameful
Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old man, and for years I’ve practiced edging. Recently I’ve experimented with long-term edges, where I’ll withhold coming for days...
What works
Dear Dan: I am a 38-year-old gay man with a serious problem. My boy-friend of five years has developed a strange fascination. We’ve always...
Pissy
Dear Dan: I like watersports, and I heard about a guy in a rural area who holds piss parties in his backyard. I found...
