Savage Love
The liked boys
Dear Dan: My best friend’s father is an avid user of social media. He’s retired and spends most of his day posting memes on...
Workmates
Dear Dan: When I first started dating my girlfriend, I asked her about past boyfriends and she said she hadn’t met the right guy...
Catfishing
Dear Dan: I’m a heteroflexible married cis woman in my 40s. I’m also a POS cheater and a catfish. I really fucked up. One...
Part and parting
Dear Dan: I’m an adult man, and I have developed a trans attraction after following a particular Tumblr blog. That blog is now gone,...
Revolution Hall
Savage Love Live stormed into Revolution Hall in Portland, Oregon. Comedian Corina Lucas absolutely killed it before our sold-out crowd, singer-songwriter Elisabeth Pixley-Fink performed...
Crazy switch Asians
Dear Dan: I’m a straight white woman in my early 30s. In theory, I’ve always been into men of all races — but in...
The sins of the grandfather
Dear Dan: My grandfather was a pillar of the community and beloved by his family. He was also sexually abusive. He died when I...
Loaded question
Dear Dan: Let’s say my kink is edging and I edge myself for a few days leading up to a date. Is it my...
Outer limits
Dear Dan: I’m a gay guy in my late 40s with a straight sister in her early 50s. She’s been married for a bit...
With extra lobster
Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You’re right! It is redundant to...
