Sophisticated Sex
The pleasure-pain threshold
Dear Dr. Jenni, My girlfriend likes to be handcuffed and blindfolded during sex. I’ve gotten used to this and can find it rather fun at times. Now she is asking for more things. She wants me to paddle her hard on her legs and even slap her face. I can’t seem to take ...
The crusade against contraception
The birth control pill turned 50 years old last month. This marked a milestone in the world of contraception — for women, sexuality and reproductive health and family planning. Of course, women have always had a ways of preventing pregnancy. In 1500 B.C., ...
Erection of the brain
Movies are given an R rating if there is sexual content. This usually means two nearly naked actors attempt a genital connection with fervent stroking, groping and moaning. But we forget that sex is more than just genital contact and more than just a ...
Eight spheres of intimacy
When I was a little infant sexologist, my first mentor was Professor Dr. Marilyn Volker, sexuality educator extraordinaire. I remember her emphasizing that sex was not solely about genital friction or the variety of erotic activities in which one could engage. ...
I’ll show you mine, you show me yours
I think it’s safe to say that we are a compulsive society and all of us are obsessed with something. In Boulder, our obsessions tend to be mountain biking the Marshall Mesa Trail or training for the Bolder Boulder. For me, I’m addicted to those free samples at ...
Sloppy seconds
Meet John, a lanky, redhaired math major at CU. He scopes out the party with fraternity brother Ron, a more widely built and brown-haired guy. They take a few swigs from their bottles of Fat Tire before they finally notice Katie, a petite brunette with green eyes...
What does your sex life say?
Last week I gave a talk on relationship communication at Fascinations in Boulder. I was worried that the topic would be somewhat lackluster. At Fascinations, I’m usually asked to talk about captivating cunnilingus and fabulous fellatio. “Communication” seemed a ...
