Sophisticated Sex
Sex and jealousy
One of the most frequent questions I hear is: Should I be jealous if my partner fantasizes about someone else when we are in bed? Sure, go ahead and be jealous. Honor this very natural feeling surging through your system. Then take a deep breath and remember ...
Daily delights
Dear Dr. Jenni, I am about to get married, and my fiancé wants to establish a contract where we agree to have sex every single day. We have been sexually active almost every day since we met, but I feel like a contract sets up an unrealistic obligation. I don’t want ...
What’s in your backpack?
Sheila went to a financial planning convention last weekend. She intended to take home information about retirement, life and disability insurance, and how much to save versus spend. Instead, she took home Mike...
The meet market
For hundreds of years in some cultures partners met each other when walking down the aisle of their own arranged marriages...
The pheromone phenomenon
Last week we discussed “seduction” as the psychological stimulation needed to get us turned on to sex. Once the brain becomes erect, our next challenge is to get the body excited. We typically know this stage as arousal, or the awakening of the second biggest sex ...
Learning each other’s love language
Great sex starts with conversation in the kitchen. Or in the dining room, or laundry room, or over appetizers at the Med. For couples to thrive in the bedroom, they need to be able to communicate their needs, wants and desires before they even take off clothes...
Finding your inner orgasm
Boulder talks a lot about finding one’s inner child. But what about finding one’s inner orgasm? Last week we painted orgasm as a journey of pleasure to which we must surrender ourselves. Surrendering entails trusting ourselves and our partners. Building trust ...
Slippery when wet
Your bottle of lube should be your best friend. Whether 16 years old or 61, single or attached, straight or gay, keeping lube by your bedside is essential. It’s like having a water bottle on a three-hour hike. Sure, you may make it to the top of Bear Mountain ...
The crusade against contraception
The birth control pill turned 50 years old last month. This marked a milestone in the world of contraception — for women, sexuality and reproductive health and family planning. Of course, women have always had a ways of preventing pregnancy. In 1500 B.C., ...
