Sophisticated Sex
Erection of the brain
Movies are given an R rating if there is sexual content. This usually means two nearly naked actors attempt a genital connection with fervent stroking, groping and moaning. But we forget that sex is more than just genital contact and more than just a ...
Eight spheres of intimacy
When I was a little infant sexologist, my first mentor was Professor Dr. Marilyn Volker, sexuality educator extraordinaire. I remember her emphasizing that sex was not solely about genital friction or the variety of erotic activities in which one could engage. ...
The pleasure-pain threshold
Dear Dr. Jenni, My girlfriend likes to be handcuffed and blindfolded during sex. I’ve gotten used to this and can find it rather fun at times. Now she is asking for more things. She wants me to paddle her hard on her legs and even slap her face. I can’t seem to take ...
I’ll show you mine, you show me yours
I think it’s safe to say that we are a compulsive society and all of us are obsessed with something. In Boulder, our obsessions tend to be mountain biking the Marshall Mesa Trail or training for the Bolder Boulder. For me, I’m addicted to those free samples at ...
The slow lane on the dating highway
Last week we looked at meeting. This week we look at mating and maintaining, otherwise known as dating...
Surrender to win
The past two weeks we have explored David Reed’s model of human sexual response. Stage one covered seduction as the brain’s erection to get us psychologically stimulated. Stage two explored sensation and different layers around what is needed for arousal, ...
Olympic-winning sex: Go for the gold
When it comes to sexuality, does your sex life make it to the finals in Vancouver? For the bronze, all we need to attain is basic functioning and a sufficient quality of connection. To win silver, we need to move from sufficient to satisfying. Getting the gold ...
